When dating a less intelligent girl than me I get bored. When dating a smarter girl I feel intimidated. What’s the solution?

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  1. Well it’s a sign of insecurity so I recommend working on it. It will make your life so much better to be secure and your relationships having higher percentage of success.

  2. Carry out an IQ test on all singles in your area and only date women with an IQ exactly the same as yours.

  8. Maybe try to stop looking for intelligence? Maybe you should look other characteristics.

  15. The majority of women fall in the middle of the bell curve.

    Unless you are dumb it should be easy to find a woman who can walk the middle line.

    Also, your problem is hilarious and going to rustle Jimmies. You’re trying to Goldilocks a gurls brain power. Maybe focus on her values and interests instead?

  16. Intelligence is one part, albeit important one, of who we are. I have learnt to see the whole person, not just one part if it. If I like the whole person I will date or be with her. This philosophy has not only worked for me but fir the person I am with as well..

  17. You are not that intelligent to begin with.

    The reason you are intimidated by smarter women because your ego can’t handle the fact that you are not special.

    You want control. You want women to talk about topics that interest you but you have no curiosity to learn topics that you aren’t comfortable with.

    The only solution is to swallow your pride, admit that you are a dumbass, and learn from others.

  19. I love when I’m in a strong bond with people I can learn from! Unless they make me feel like a dummy (by acting patronisingly) it’s a really fun thing. Don’t be afraid of intelligent partners <3

  20. You’re closeted gay. Literally my gay friend said the same thing when he tried to date girls.

  21. Find out which of the three is preferable: bored, intimidated, or alone. You’re going to have to pick one if you can’t just get over it.

  25. How do you measure intelligence? Someone can be an idiot on a particular range of topics and genius at others.

  27. That dumb girl knows more than you think about something.

    That smart girl probably has a blind spot or 2.

  28. Everyone blaming op is for his problems. Men really can’t ask for help in this society. Op, just date a smarter chick that grew out of her need to act holy over her education. I think you just haven’t found your person yet.

  29. Learn to not be intimidated. A smart women is the best type. If you want them to be a LT partner, then being smart benefits you.

  30. It’s totally valid to value intelligence in a partner.

    If you have a very low tolerance for anyone more or less intelligent than you, you are going to be very lonely.

    Raise your tolerance for intelligence in a partner or cozy up to the idea that you’ll often be alone.

  32. It’s difficult getting a good woman to be in a long term relationship with these days, let alone choosing partners based on their intelligence. I’m not saying settle for less, but this doesn’t seem like one of those instances and I don’t advocate picking and choosing women based on their intellect.

    Being intimated by a smarter women seems like an insecurity on your part? Maybe just accept being the dumber partner. If she likes you for you, why does it matter if she’s smarter?

    And if you feel a woman is dumber than you, than like how does that make her boring? Can’t a woman be entertaining and fun in conversations, without it being an IQ test everytime you want to speak? Also does she take care of you, treat you right, has potential to be a great mother, will have your back through thick and thin, will try her best to listen to you and try have conversations with you even if she knows your smarter than her?

    If she checks all those boxes and you still are caught up on intellect, you’re just spoilt and deserve less.

  33. intelligent people are encouraged by an abundance of intelligence around them. insecure people feel intimidated by it.

  35. Fuck all these negative comments. This dude is asking for help and everyone is shitting on him like they know him personally. This is why men dont open to ppl fr. If it was a girl asking this same question everyone would give her the benefit of doubt and give her genuine advice.

  45. Dude you’ve been absolutely raped on this one.

    I’d suggest showing up to courses, groups or spaces that make you feel intellectually inferior. Then you’d get used to it and wouldn’t have to jump from the plane without a parachute.

    Thing is if you feel intellectually intimidated odds are you’re in a situation that will ultimately increase your intellect and knowledge.

    Edit: if someone makes you feel stupid unintentionally stick around

    Edit 2: ensure your intentions are good, you have nothing to hide and you’re happy with yourself as a person because another interpretation of your question would be that you’re worried because she’ll have the capability to see through your shit

  46. You have fallen into a very common trap. You are using Intellect as measure of human value.

    You look down on the “less intelligent” girl, which is arrogant and you are intimidated by the “more intelligent” girl which is fear. Arrogance and Fear are bad companions to take advice from. The danger of intellect is that it can “puff you up”, makes you feel superior but that need to feel superior is in itself an indication of a character flaw that needs to be corrected.

    My wife is a registered nurse with two degrees and a retired Naval Officer. I have a high school education. I have a wide range of experiences that she never had and I read veraciously. She has helped me gain a wide range of knowledge in the areas of science, math and psychology. In turn she has learned a great deal from me about business, finance, literature, art and history. I have had countless dinner conversations with surgeons, lawyers, nurses and fighter pilots and still enjoy and learn from my friends in construction and welding. My point is, strive to be a well rounded man morally, spiritually and intellectually.

    Be confident without being arrogant and be humble without be fearful. You need to get these things fixed in your life before you decide on a serious relationship or you will, with little doubt, make the wrong choice and as men we all know how that turns out. I do know some good lawyers if you wind up needing one. Hope this helps.

  47. 1) Learn that excitement is not a core requirement of a long lasting, healthy relationship. Also that intelligence does not have to equate to presence or absence of excitement. Plus, intelligence is not binary, its a sliding scale. People who are truly intelligent realize that they can always learn more rather than finding it boring.

    2) Figure out why this is.

  48. stop being intimidated if a smarter girl is willing to date my dumbass i aint turing that down cause she’s going places i could never dream of going but i’ll still get a ton of the benefits

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