Do we have a future together?

TLDR; Childhood best friend is giving mixed signs, I like him, but I don’t know if it’s leading anywhere.

Hey! Hoping to find advice from an outsider’s perspective.

I (20F) want to know if this guy (21M) likes me and wants to marry me.

We met when we were really young, our families are very close, and they’re also quite strict religiously. When we were younger, we were extremely close, then he got with my cousin and we grew apart. After their break up, we became close again, but I feel like our situation has been ambiguous for years. He gets jealous a lot, hates it when hair is showing out of my hijab, but never makes a move to show that he likes me. He gets mad when he finds out I’m talking to guys (even my cousins and college friends) but I know he talks to girls all the time.

I didn’t really care about getting into a relationship in the first place, in fact I’ve never been in one and he knows that. I’m graduating this year and I’ve been getting a few dating proposals, however, my dad loves my friend and our families have been pushing for us to get closer. (They don’t know that we still talk)

I can’t bring it up to him because I live in a pretty closed environment and I don’t want anyone to find out. I just wanna know what’s going on inside his head. If he likes me, then I’m willing to take the next steps with him. But if he’s just playing around, then I would rather meet other people.

At the same time, he’s also got a reputation amongst my friends after he got with my cousin. They hate that he’s still talking to me, and they think that he’s toxic. But, to be fair, I’ve noticed that he’s matured so much after joining the navy, which is the only reason i’m willing to look past his history.

Any thoughts? Do y’all think he likes me and sees a future with me? Or is he just being controlling and jealous because he can?? Thanks 🙂

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  1. I mean, whether he’s being controlling and jealous because he can or because he likes you, do you want to be with someone who gets mad when you talk to any man, *even one you’re related to?* I promise you, you want a husband who isn’t going to make you walk on eggshells.

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