I am an introverted person. I have friends but sometimes I feel they just forget me. Maybe it’s because I rarely text on group chats and all but I just don’t know what to say. But that doesn’t mean I should be ignored right? I feel really bad and left out when they do that. I’m also a very oblivious person and don’t have many inputs to give in a conversation so I don’t know how to make myself seen more.
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Well, why should they remember you ? It cannot be because you are lonely and need attention. What are they going to get out of talking with you ? Typically, people look for somebody who is confident, fun, interesting to be around, or adds some kind of positive energy or positive vibes. They deduce it from the way you act and carry yourself around them. There are verbal and nonverbal cues that you give off that show you are anxious, unconfident, worrying, overthinking, etc. and they subconsciously deduce you are not that positive person they want to hang out with. For example, being overly quiet and not participating or contributing in past social interactions you had with them. You need to practice putting yourself out there and talking to people in a confident manner.
Also, people naturally recognize, appreciate, and value you when there is something respectable about you. Do you have skills, talents, hobbies ? Can they impact people ? People subconsciously attach you to the value you bring.
>Maybe it’s because I rarely text on group chats and all but I just don’t know what to say. But that doesn’t mean I should be ignored right?
well…one thing to bear in mind is that you reading all the group chats but never participating because you don’t know what to say looks exactly the same on the outside as just ignoring the group chat yourself.
being a friend isn’t something you are, it’s something you do – what are you doing to be friends with these people?
Hey OP i’m no sosial butterfly my self but if i have a hard time i try to find topics that can intrest the both of us like games,anime or just what they think about a life in genaral. I don’t think you should be ignord just because you don’t talk much but you are alowed to have prefrenses on what kind people want to be around. Rember shareing how you feel can be good for both party they can be sitting there thinking this guy/girl get it. And also be sure to cheek with your self that you’re not suffering from FOMO. Best of lucky to you OP you got this!