What boundaries would you not cross when hanging around girls other than your girlfriend in respect to ur gf ?

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1. Would I be fine with telling my girlfriend what I did? If the answer’s ‘no’ then it’s not cool.

2. No behaviors that you wouldn’t do with a guy friend.

3. >Obv not kissing or touching or having s€x

   How does that affect your respect for ur gf? Not obvious to me.

   A really good gf would want me to have a full, rich, wonderful life full of joy and pleasure.

4. Either you trust your partner enough to let them set their own boundaries, or you shouldn’t be with them because a relationship without trust can’t thrive. If you can’t trust anyone, that’s usually trauma that needs to be unpacked and processed.

5. If it’s something I’d have to hide, then I shouldn’t be doing it. As grown ass men, we should know what the lines are with our ladies without having to justify it.

   That said, all of us are in different positions. I’ve had friends literally fall asleep on me, gotten rubbed down (one of my friends is a masseuse), and shared food/drinks. If a girlfriend I had expressed they don’t like it or are uncomfortable, then it’s not a big deal to stop it. Unless it’s something mundane like staying up late playing a game, that’s just being unreasonable and I’m going to need an explanation.

6. Straight up just don’t be flirting or constant physical touch (cuddling, holding hands) and yk the obvious stuff like don’t fuck your friends

7. If I ever had to ask myself is this acceptable? Often times it wasn’t. I was married for six years before I left my ex wife for cheating on me. I’m a charismatic, moderately handsome, charming, among other things I have been told by the fairer sex. I’ve had friends that are women ask inappropriate things, offer sex, ect. Not only was the answer no but I’d leave and tell my wife. Sometimes, even if I didn’t think something was morally wrong out of my love for her at the time I just wouldn’t do it. Short answer any gender knows what is and isn’t appropriate when you are in a commitment to anyone regardless of sexual orientation, race, gender creed. Hope that helps.

8. I would personally not show physical affection even if it’s a friendly hand on the arm

9. Not sitting close? I think that’s too much. Why would you do that? Did your GF ask for it?