Made a throwaway for obvious reasons
If you’re a man GO AWAY this doesn’t concern you (/s)
Okay I have a problem and no one I’ve talked to seems to have heard of it so I thought I’d consult the internet (lol). I cannot come with anything inside me. Important context is I’ve only cum with a vibrator, with or without a partner (a few times I’ve made myself cum with my fingers on my clit but it’s always a little orgasm and fairly disappointing). But whenever something is inside me (a rabbit vibrator, a penis, a dildo, etc) I just can’t seem to come…I get the “going up” feeling I normally get right before I come, and it sort of happens in my brain a little but my vagina doesn’t do the squeezing thing it normally does, and i just end up feeling more frustrated. Today, I did an experiment where I started cumming and THEN stuck a finger in and it just stopped (which was SO annoying). So my question: is this a thing?? Has anyone else experienced this??
Is this a medical thing? I’ve thought about going to the doctor before because it’s so hard for me to come and that’s really annoying for me and my bf
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So what if you and your boyfriend have intercourse and he finishes and then he uses his fingers, or if he’s into it his tongue, to get you off afterwards? My wife and I have been having sex for 9 years and 99% of her orgasms have occurred this way. Obviously, your mileage may vary — if this isn’t what you want, you don’t have to settle for it. I’m just pointing out that it is an option.
I have one question that you need to ask yourself first, that maaay be a solution to the puzzle,
when you just touch on the outside, what do you do with your legs then?
i.e, Is the thing that makes it go away that you get something in, or is it that you spread your legs more apart?
You don’t necessarily need to tell us, but I suggest you figure out the distinction here.
I feel like this is common. If I am helping someone get off and I have something in them, I always pull out right as they start to climax. Sometimes, I can rub just inside the opening with a finger or two while they finish, but it has to be at the right angle or it can ruin it for them.
Oh, I’m built like you, too. I can’t cum with anything inside me, just my vibe/my fingers rubbing against my clit. It’s almost like our vagina can only focus on one sensation down there. *smh lol*
I didn’t fight it with my ex-bfs, and they were accepting of it. We’d have lots of foreplay and sex (and roleplay and recreate porn scenes and…) and when we were both almost out of our minds, I’d scooch back so he was out of me so we could watch each other masturbate. I’d take my vibe and he’ stroke, and he’d paint me wherever he wished or re-enter me then I’d play with my vibe right after.
If missionary, I’d press my vibe against my clit so I felt *some* sensation and he could feel the vibration too even if I never came. The pleasure was enough.
The vibe during oral, too. Basically, the vibe was the third joiner of our sex party for two. Lol
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