16M, 11th grade.
So I made my first female friend. In the dm last night, we were talking about how hard a chef’s job might be (because we did a stressful cooking exam) then I said “Im not becoming a chef 💀” then she said “what if you were paid 10k per 3 months lmao”. But ik some chefs actually earn that, so then i proceeded to explain about chef positions, rankings, and 6 figure salaries. A whole bunch of useless info that no one asked for, and now i got left on read. I feel like SHITTT
Edit: She responded the morning after
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You’re at an age where people still try to figure out their personalities/likes/dislikes etc. Especially how to act, so I wouldn’t say that being left on read is anything alarming. She sounds like she likes chatting with you so just look forward to the next time you guys will talk, and remember to not feel guilty about being yourself around people you like. They maybe won’t like an aspect or two, but honestly that’s friendships. TL;DR You’re good!
Oof, it happens, OP. At best, she got distracted or didn’t find the info terribly interesting; at worst, she felt like you were mansplaining something to her. I think your best bet is to give it a little time, then just send her another message like normal. I wouldn’t bring up the awkwardness of the last conversation’s end.
Did you ramble on like an idiot or was she just being rude
She probably didn’t know how to respond to that block of info. Remember when having a conversation the goal is to get a response from the other person. You talk, I talk, you talk, I talk. All that info and knowledge you had could’ve been strung out in an in depth conversation.
Personally I leave people on read all the time just because I find long texting conversations boring. I get that that’s not the case with everyone but I don’t want to sit there for hours texting. Is it possible she just had other stuff to do?
If she’s someone you see regularly I wouldn’t worry about it. She probably just didn’t have anything else to say at the moment and the conversation was over.
Wait a day, send a meme related to your week. Next time say I’ve thought about this a lot, do you want to hear about it?
don’t sweat it, if a girl truly likes you she’s not going to give a shit about you rambling on. you wanna weed out those people in your life who won’t let you be yourself.
You are 16. You have 34 more years to practice. I’m actually impressed that you could find information and courage to debate. It’s ok if someone doesn’t respond . It’s just mean it’s not something they care much about or that they don’t have time to form a thoughtful answer. Nothing seems serious here. At least now you know what to do next time.
Literally me when I was 16. Although my crush used to read all my long ass paragraphs and responded to all of them
Lesson learnt I guess, not much can be done now aside from preventing it from happening again
Might have required too much brain power to read or process at night. Sometimes at night if I get a long message my eyes just glaze over and I respond the next day.
Well acxually…. Welcome to mansplaining. You don’t want to talk AT someone but talk with someone and it sounds like you went into lecture mode. Be aware of it and try not to do it again
Just take everything casually and in a fun way. Make fun of her and yourself and laugh at everything. Life is too fucking short we will all die eventually. So take a chill pill bruh.
Not only you’ll seem confident, you’ll be genuinely happy
Maybe chill a bit with the ranting, but also, dont overthink things… You are making yourself anxious…
I was going to say, you probably werent left on read, people just get busy sometimes, or fall asleep.
You’re 16. Sounds to me like you’re just overthinking like most normal teens