How do you stop yourself from dwelling and ruminating after getting ghosted?

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1. I just remind myself that they didn’t care enough about me to communicate with me, and certainly aren’t sitting there worried about me and what I’m doing … so why give them that energy?

   They dont’ care, nor should you.

2. That happened to me this week. I’ve stopped myself from dwelling on it so much by refocusing my energy elsewhere, like other Bumble matches.

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4. Therapy. This kind of behavior is motivated (for me) by deep feelings of shame and abandonment due to trauma, so addressing the root cause has been the only way to prevent it.

5. You talk to someone else, terrible advice but it works.

6. I go back to focusing my energy on something I love – for me it’s books and reading. Find something easy for you to get absorbed in and he/she/they will become inconsequential.

7. You need to remember that the problem 100% lies with them not you, don’t think for a second that it’s your fault. Do what ever makes you your happiest self until you feel better (binge a show and order in or go out with friends is what I did). It’s seriously not worth your time because they’ve proved that they aren’t worth talking to.