okay so i am a 19F and i’m still a virgin and haven’t sucked dick, i’m not ashamed of this, i haven’t waited this long for any specific reason, i’ve just always been too busy for a relationship and put work, school, and family first etc
well i’m at a point in my life where i feel that i now have room for that type of stuff, so i’m talking to a guy, he’s really nice and very respectful of my boundaries and never crosses the line, he wants to go on a date soon and we’re gonna go to his place after
now this guy is a little older than me and has been in a couple relationships before so i know he’s experienced, for some reason losing my virginity isn’t what worries me, i’m fairly confident that i’ll be decent my first time, however whenever i think about having to give him a bj my anxiety goes to an all time high
i start asking myself what if i’m not good? what if i do something wrong and he doesn’t enjoy it? now knowing him he’s not the type of guy to drop me if i’m not good lol i’m sure we could work on it, but i just really at least wanna be decent my first time
so i guess what i’m asking is literally how do i suck dick? like obviously i know what’ll need to happen and whatever but is there like anything specific i should be doing? i’m genuinely very nervous so if someone could help me or give me a tip on certain things i’d appreciate it a lot!
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You put your mouth in a oval and wrap ur mouth around his Penis. You go up and down in a suction motion. You can tease him by licking his tip before going full suction. and than use ur hands to jerk off what u can’t reach if thts the case. U can look up at him and make moaning or love Noises. You can use ur other hand to touch/caress his chest, balls, nipples (if he’s into tht).
And after ur done u can praise him and be like damn u were so hard for Me and look him into his eyes and give him a sloppy kiss
Edit: you can also let him put his hand on u when ur going Up and down (guys love doing tht) . Remember to breath through ur nose. And u can move his other free hand to ur breasts or pussy if u want
A few tips here:
USE YOUR LIPS TO PREVENT FROM TEETHING HIM: Use a tad bit of your lips to shield your teeth from grinding over us dick as you. This doesn’t mean you have to literally wrap your lips around your teeth being taking him in your mouth, but try this:
Sitting where you are at home, mouth closed, open your jaw but keep your lips sealed, then suck in so you feel the inner part of your lips covering your teeth. That’s all the suction/protection you need.
USE YOUR TONGUE: examples are licking his shaft all the way from the root up to the tip; all up and down his shaft, and especially when he’s in your mouth.
A way to try this is stick a finger in your mouth and suck it like you would his dick. Wrap your lips around, give it a bit of suction to hide your teeth, and your tongue will naturally lift to touch the underside of his penis. You want to keep your tongue in contact with his dick especially when you’re on your OUT motions, but experiment with your in and out tongue pressures and suctions and ask during “does this feel good” and absolutely encourage him to be honest as you’re learning.
Also, become a bit familiar with the anatomy of a dick, particularly the frenulum.
Just like a man needs to learn about the clitoris, you need to learn about that spot on his member as it’s where we focus the end point on ourselves when we masturbate. It’s our sweet spot but is either sensitive or dead without prior stimulation, so just enjoy your time for a while then when the moment is right, focus your tongue right there and he’ll be in bliss. The trick is experimenting with the pressure of your tongue and levels of suction. That’s why you need him to communicate or listen/read his moans.
USE YOUR HANDS AND DON’T FORGET HIS BALLS: one (or two) hands on his shaft going up and down with your mouth, in rhythm, and occasionally take the other to his balls or leg. Don’t squeeze his balls, you don’t even have to lift, just caress and lightly graze them as if you were just feeling his skin there and gliding your fingers down his sack. If you take his balls in your mouth, you don’t need to hard suck. It’s VERY sensitive down there to suction so just lick for now and when you’re comfortable, experiment with taking one in your mouth.
Play with different hand movements and rhythms on both his shaft and when you caress his balls, but also don’t be afraid to just hold them while you suck. A gentle lift is also blissful.
Eye contact when you can, but don’t pressure yourself to think it’s 24/7 eye contact. Just a little will do, especially at the right times.
Above all, enjoy yourself. If you are enjoying yourself and are enthusiastic about sucking him off, he will be too.
Tell him you want to be the best he’s ever had and ask for true feedback ! Every guy likes different techniques but the one thing all guys have in common is loving confidence and enthusiasm.
Tell him it’s your first BJ. It’s very Erotic for a man. Ask him to lead you of you feel the need. Just relax and let your feelings telling you the way to do 😉