Hey! I (32F) have been single for a few years after previous relationship ended. It was a complete blessing in disguise and I’ve bloomed as a person in every way, for the first time I consider myself to be confident and doing ok in my career, I also look good compared to how I did previously.
But, aside from a stint of busy casual dating in late 2019 and early 2020, i can’t seem to bring myself to date. And I would like to, it’s pretty fun!
I feel nervous about it, but its like I don’t know why! I am fine in social situations. I know that covid and lockdowns will not have helped too
Is this something that will kind of resolve itself in time? Is there any advice you can give for ways to slowly get back into dating? I don’t know if i’m necessarily ready for apps or if this all sounds really silly but would appreciate any insight 🙂 thanks!
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How exciting for you! I think the best way to get back into it is to have the mindset of having no expectations. Do it for the fun conversations you get to have while getting to know another human. Do it for the opportunity to get gussied up. Do it for the nice meals and/or events. Do it for the practice! Do it for the opportunity to get really good at knowing and naming what you’re wanting in a relationship! Approach from a place of curiosity, there’s no heaviness there. If something happens to unfold then so be it! I follow this account on Insta: @dating.intentionally- I really love her approach and plan to incorporate it when I get back into the dating game. Wishing you the best! ❤️
Just get out there and have some practice again! I got divorced at 31 to the man I had known since 19 so I have NO dating experience. I just jumped in and it got easier the more dates I went on
Hey miss, good to hear that youre getting out there. As a 38 year old guy with Id say average to athletic build and have been called cute or attractive a few times; Im finding dating/online dating/trying to date to be a slog and just shitty sometimes. I dont know how it is for the ladies out there but as a guy just trying to meet someone, just…damn. It can be really rough. BUT, with that being said lemme say this, keep your head up, have no expectations and I mean NONE, just keep putting yourself out there and enjoy talking to people. Dont let any ghosting or one meetup only get ya down.
Its what Ive been doing.
Lol so far only one actual coffee date and she rplied to texts for a couple days then vanished.
No biggie. Keep moving cuz movement is life 😁