I cannot put into words what I’m going through. I don’t know what is it exactly that I’m doing wrong and how to correct it. It’d be so lovely if I actually had some genuinely caring, kind people instead of momentarily nice ones in my life. No matter how many times I’ve asked different people for a genuine feedback it I’ve barely ever heard any. No matter how much I try and reflect I have no idea as to how I’m really coming across/perceived by people. My insight and self-awareness might simply be lacking or it could be denial. I’m clueless as to which one it might be.
is it my appearance or the way I act? What is it that makes me so unwanted and undesired. In best case scenario I get ignored. What am I doing so wrong?
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Well, why should people want and desire you ? It cannot be because you are lonely and need attention. What are they going to get out of talking with you ? Typically, people look for somebody who is confident, fun, interesting to be around, or adds some kind of positive energy or positive vibes. They deduce it from the way you act and carry yourself around them. There are verbal and nonverbal cues that you give off that show you are anxious, unconfident, worrying, overthinking, etc. and they subconsciously deduce you are not that positive person they want to hang out with. For example, being overly quiet and not participating or contributing in past social interactions you had with them. You need to practice putting yourself out there and talking to people in a confident manner.
Also, people naturally recognize, appreciate, and value you when there is something respectable about you. Do you have skills, talents, hobbies ? Can they impact people ? People subconsciously attach you to the value you bring.