Here are a few things about me. I’m in my early twenties and a student. My life is monotonous, and it was pretty simple. I attend lectures after that straight to my office, and to the library and then I head back home, and I was a loner all the time.
And I met a girl last night, and she said that I am not no fun. I can feel the awkwardness of them when I am around. I just want to make some connections and to have some friends.
How can I develop myself? Like how can I be more social and interesting?
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Cultivate curiosity. Embrace adventure. Start by doing something different than you normally would every day. Watch the movie yes man, start saying yes to any opportunity that presents itself. Once you find out who you are and everything possible you like, you’ll be there
May take a while, so enjoy the journey
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Composure, posture, and breathe. Will u be fine leading up to asking her out? Yes. And will u be fine after? Don’t overthink it. Like others have said find common ground, explore and find out if she’s ur type
Fun is all about ATTITUDE, not about what’s going on in your life, necessarily. You could be a world traveling bore, or you could be a fun and fascinating student with an otherwise ho-hum life. I mean, you can read a few interesting things online and share your opinion of that. But you need to do it with some ENTHUSIASM for what you’re saying.
For me there’s two ways to learn how.
(1) One would be, to just be who you are with people. Let those that don’t find you interesting leave your life, and let in those who naturally gravitate towards you. Instead of worrying if you have a place in other people’s table, care more about who deserves a seat in yours.
(2) Pay attention to what you feel with people, and if you have someone that makes you comfortable, curious, and you genuinely find them interesting and really fun, stay close to learn lol. You’ll pick up mannerisms and similar mindsets that they have. Take note of how they care about people and how they see themselves. Discern from there what you want to apply in your life.
I read somewhere the key to being interesting is to stay interested. Like I saw someone say cultivate curiosity.