Many of the women that I’ve gone down on (both long term partners and random hookups) have at some point stopped me in the middle of it because they “needed a break”. Most of the times it would then transition to PIV sex, even though they haven’t reached orgasm at that point.
When asked about it they usually tell me that they enjoyed it and don’t further elaborate, which obviously messes with my head. Why would you stop something that you enjoy?
I like to finger her g-spot while simultaneously licking/sucking on her clit, though that’s also the point where they usually end up “needing a break”. I suspect that I might be a bit too intense with the clit. I am aware that the clit can be pretty sensitive so I do try to properly get it aroused by foreplaying the foreplay and switching up intensities. (Semi-serious side note: How can I distinguish moans of joy from moans of anguish?)
I really enjoy giving oral to my partners, but there obviously seems to be room for improvement, so I’d love to get some female insight into that matter – thanks!
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Sucking is a no no no for me, I would always stop someone. I would tell them why though, perhaps the girls you were with didn’t feel comfortable enough though.
Maybe you are just a bit rough, instead of just going to town directly on the clit, try brushing around the sides more, give the little lady a little break from just going to town on it all the time.
Ask! But personally I do this when I’m either overstimulated, or I’m overthinking about something and know that I’m not going to orgasm. So it can be helpful to “change the subject” and do something else.
You are probably overstimulating them. The clit is generally VERY sensitive and it’s often a good idea to wait until someone is at least 80-90% of the way to orgasm (ish) before introducing penetration, since G-spot sensations can be kind of uncomfortable if there’s not enough arousal going on yet.
(I’m a sex educator and am saying this based on my own experiences as well as research and interviews over the years, but of course, no sex advice is universal and the best thing to do is ask your partner what they mean by this and what they like/want)