I (F) haven’t done much experimenting with porn or slutty subreddits. My boyfriend (M) has done more experimenting than me, and from porn and different types of reddit stories, he has found some kinks he likes. It’s not necessarily the sex, but leading up to sex that we need to work on. We have been together for 2.5 years and we’re looking for ways for him to get me in the mood easier, and for ways to find more kinks that I also enjoy so that we don’t have the same vanilla, boring sex anymore. Any and all advice welcome! Thank you!
For clarification, I am not judging him or doing this behind his back, he was next to me when I made this post and agreed that we should. Him and I are BOTH trying to find new things for us to try.
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Before he can get you in the mood, you need to figure out what that looks like. What are you in to? Do you want to be his good girl, or the slut he’s going to give what she deserves? Are you more dominant or submissive? What makes you excited? What do you masturbate to (doesn’t have to be porn, can simply be what you think about)?
Answer these questions (not here, not our damn business lol) and you’ll be a long way towards your answer.
Honestly I can firstly say COMPLETELY forget about the porn, these are humans that can have sex with an hour lunch break while not liking each other and while completely not interested! Maybe amateur is okay… but progressional porn is horrible for any relationship!
What helped me and my girlfriend free up the sex was removing the concept of needing a bed to do it. If it could reach we were doing it. it frees up a lot more scenarios IE. “Damn babe I’ve never seen such a strong man clean snow off a drive” as stupid as it sounds it’s an open conversation that says let’s fuck somehow and somewhere, even if it’s cheesy!!Really helps freeing up the sexual tension which does exist between couples!!
Also please get him to put the porn down none of it is even remotely real!!!