My ongoing problem is that I never even get past the meeting phase. There’s usually some bullshit excuse like oh I have a family thing or I’m going away next weekend, I can only do weekdays, etc. For some context im gay and yes that is a problem bc hookup culture in our community is the actual plague even when guys supposedly put “relationship” as their “seeking”. I’m not ugly or have a bad personality, otherwise people wouldn’t be stringing me along for weeks. I usually don’t wait longer than two weeks before cutting someone off (meeting F2F is really important to me to establish connection). But now Im just wondering if I’m being too impatient. I fall in love easily and I don’t want to hang on a guy I like who I’m not sure even likes me back. Sure the words are sweet, but the actions don’t reflect this. I think I attract too many mommy’s boys who can’t spend a single weekend apart from their mothers. It’s honestly so gross.
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I like to employ the three strikes method. If they still can’t get their shit together after you give them THREE separate chances to do so? Move on.
“three strikes, you’re out”
If they’ve turned you down three times, after there’s been some back and forth texting to get to know each other, time to move on imo.
If whenever you ask them out but they kept giving you excuses it could means that they rejected you, in a soft way, you have to move on.