What is something you wish your parent(s) would have done or told you when you were growing up?

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1. While appearances don’t reflect what kind of person you are, they do matter. I wish I had been taught to curl my hair, select and apply makeup, and how to dress myself. I realize now that my mom was too depressed to do it for herself, let alone model that behavior for me by the time I was of age. I didn’t learn how to do all of this until my 30s out of necessity (work).

2. I wish that my mum was even a little bit affectionate and said I love you, even if it was only once.

3. That I have value even just for existing. I was raised very religiously and basically taught that I had no inherent value unless I work really hard to be good

4. It’s okay to make mistakes. You’re still a good person. We can fix this.

5. I wish mine was around more.

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7. I wish they didnt yell at me every time i made a mistake or if I dropped something.

   I wiah they supported my hobbies instead of always criticising

   I wish we did more fun things together instead of spending every moment of free time having to clean or iron or cook

   I wish they didn’t make me raise my brother

   I wish they said i love you more, maybe then i would be able to say it to them now.

   I wish they didn’t use me as a buffer for their fights, always dragging me into them, always venting to me.

   Wish they let me be a kid

8. I wish my parents said that they loved me, I wish they celebrated my successes when I do well, I wish they’d hug me, they’re nice people but I really don’t think they love me or want me around.

9. I wish my parents actually invested, supported and were present in my younger years. It would have definitely helped me a lot such as confidence development and made our relationship better.

   Because they didn’t do that..I became part of a toxic cycle of seeking validation and approval from them…which thankfully I have grown out of.

10. Allowed me to date while in school and allowed open communication while doing it. I’m doing that for my daughter and she is growing a healthy sense of self. I wish I’d had that. I would have made better choices in partners.

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12. I wish I’d been made to play an instrument!!

13. I wish my parents had protected me from the male predators inside and outside my home also to teach me the importance of taking meticulous care of my teeth.