It’s been tough for us both.
I had flowers and balloons delivered to our house and she loved that – she cried, I cried; this, maybe a month and a half ago.
I don’t feel obligated to do this, but I so badly want to just drop a little bit of something special into her day. She’s been so busy and just overloaded; no idea how she does it.
I’m just too weak to do too much right now.
No idea too cheesy or insignificant. Thank you.
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Buy a cork board and start writing notes to tack on, and a box nearby so that when it gets full you can add them to the box. You can write about your favorite memories together. Small things you love about her but others don’t notice. Silly drawings, even if it’s stick figures. Silly stories like what if you had met as children, how did you find each other in your past life, etc. Anything.
If your relationship withstands the test of time, it will be a lot of wonderful memories in a box to open up and look back on.
Do both the hardest and easiest thing–tell her. “You give me the gift of your time and I cannot begin to tell you how much I appreciate you, how much I admire your strength, how you’re my rock, and my safe place to cry when I need to.” Flowers are nice and all, but telling someone how much what they do means to you means a whole lot more.
That is so sweet that she takes care of you, and so sweet that you want to show your appreciation. If you know her favorite restaurant, maybe surprise her with a nice meal that you can get delivered and light some candles and be all romantic. I wish you well!
I fold origami for my husband sometimes. I also leave silly drawings on his desk. Bath teas or shower steamers might be a nice self-care treat for her too. Both make bath or shower time smell lovely, but don’t have the same kind of added cleanup that comes from things like bath bombs.
Hey man… im just saying if you go down on her while you’re going through what you’re going through it might just set you up with head for life.