She will threaten to meet other guys one-on-one for dinner whenever we have a fight.
I tell her, she needs to think of the reverse, “how would she feel if I tell her I am meeting other females”. I won’t do it or even mention the idea of it. Because that will make her feel hurt.
She also has been meeting a married man for a while claiming that they are “just friends”. She claimed she doesn’t do it anymore after meeting me.
She was meeting a married man and said that he took her to “fun places”, and claimed that it was purely platonic. I was thinking how would his wife feel if she finds out. It could potentially destroy their family, especially if the wife has trust issues. I would never meet with a married woman on a one to one basis without the husband knowing. Even if the husband knows, that is a bit iffy in my books.
**TLDR:** Girlfriend threatens to meet other guys when we fight. And has no problem meeting other married men as “friends”
**Question:** How much of this are red-flags? I think she is just thinking about how she feels at a very shallow level only. I don’t think she is thinking deep enough on how her actions will affect others.
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TLDR: Too much red flags and that’s enough of a reason to WALK THE HELL AWAY NOW MAN. Why the hell haven’t you just said “Hasta La Vista” to that manipulative person?
Sounds like a toxic relationship
I think your assessment of the situation is correct. She seems to be shallow and ignoring consequences.
>I tell her, she needs to think of the reverse, “how would she feel if I tell her I am meeting other females”. I won’t do it or even mention the idea of it. Because that will make her feel hurt.
So why do you think you deserve to be treated like that by her, if you wouldn’t treat someone else like that?
>I would never meet with a married woman on a one to one basis without the husband knowing.
So why are you associating with someone who did that? Why do you not tolerate these behaviors in yourself, yet tolerate them in your gf?
You have very inconsistent moral standards, dude. You say you’re above all that but at the same time you’re willing to support someone who does those things? Leaving your gf’s behavior aside, that’s also a red flag for you.