I am good at having engaging conversations with people for hours but I’m not really good at making people laugh their ass off. I feel like my personality is too logical not very creative. I can’t think of funny stuff and even when I do, I’m not good at landing it very well. It seems like most people around me are like me more or less but they are some guys that say stuff that make people crack up. It is a combination of content, tone, body language, and delivery and it’s subtle thing. I see on dating forums that it is a good quality to “make women laugh” and I agree that it’s a very useful technique to ease into any conversation and make people (men and women alike) like you. I don’t know how to get there though.
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I mean, some people are naturally good with some skills. Being funny naturally could be considered a skill, and it will help you get someone’s attention, but in the long term is not only that aspect that made them attractive. If you are able to have engaging conversations, that’s also a skill. Many not as “powerful” as being funny for the biggest impressions, but I think it’s even better in the long run than being funny.
If you are a logical person, try to see the pattern of funny people. What type of jokes they use, and when do they use them. Observe and analyze, and after that, the only way you can improve is practicing. Obviously, it probably won’t go very well the first times, but practice makes the master.
I wondered the same thing OP. One thing I started to look into was self-knowledge in order to understand myself better. To do that, I thought about trying to learn what kind of sense of humour I had, and then expand on that. Maybe learn some jokes. Been quite busy lately so this went to the back burner for me. Pretty off the beaten path I think, but that’s all I got right now. I’m somewhat in the same situation as you.
I think the ability to have an engaging conversation with someone for hours is a much more challenging thing and it is a great skill to have! You should look for people that are more into that rather than a funny, charming witty guy who’s great at parties but lacks depth. When I was single and dating around, I used to be wary of such guys, because I knew that there wasn’t much beyond the funny quips and one liners.
Both skills are innate and cannot be taught so nurture the one that comes more naturally to you and you will find the right people that are attracted to it 🙂