I know how strong men are, and I was wondering if managing their strength around women was a conscious decision.

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  2. Primarily when playing around, yes, in general interactions, no. I’m 2x the size of my wife, and have very strong hands, so I have to be careful not to be too rough with her when we are playing around.

  3. Kinda the opposite. It’s not like I’m going around gritting my teeth and clenching my fists all the time. I’ve had girls tell me they want me to be more rough with them, and I have to make a conscious effort to do that.

  4. No, it takes concentrated effort to produce force. For reference, I’m body builder level muscular, so it isn’t a matter of guys being ‘weak’ or ‘strong’. The only time things are ‘dangerous’ for my wife is when I’m falling asleep if she is trying to cuddle with me. A lot of people have that little jolt where their body does a quick spasm before they truly start sleeping. If we’re cuddling, she might get whacked in some capacity, but I’m not exactly conscious then.

  5. I think I consciously are more gentle cause a soft caress or soft hug just feels better than being rough when you’re cuddling or being cute. I don’t see it as me having to hold my manly strength from a woman, just not the moment to show off my grip strength. Idk feels a bit sexist to think men have to control their natural strength not to overpower gentle weak women. I’m sure there’s plenty of women out there that can kick my, your, and lots of dudes’ asses

  6. I think every man, growing up learns to use appropriate amount of force on everything, when grabbing, squeezing, pushing/pulling, throwing etc. On a regular day day, excluding gym, I think I rarely go over 50% of strength.

    And yeah, this includes interacting with women and children. Too much and they could get hurt.

  7. I am a pretty big and strong guy and i actively watch how much “force” i apply when i hug someone as a means of greeting or goodby but not when i cuddle my wife

  8. Big dogs tend to be better trained to not hurt others, even if they bite they don’t use their strength

    Smaller dogs will bite and bark because they don’t have the same understanding of “if I use my strength here I will cause serious damage”

  9. The only men who would have an issue with that are ones who have no idea how to touch a woman.

  12. I found that alot of women are tougher than I am.. my wife.. giving birth to my daughter proved this to me…

  13. Not really, you just use an appropriate amount.

    I can also pick up my TV remote without launching it through the ceiling.

  15. Depends on the woman. My wife likes hard pounding; my girlfriend finds that painful and likes slower and softer. Ironically, my natural rhythm if I’m not consciously thinking about it is kind of in the middle between the two.

  16. With my wife, yes. I’m considerably larger and stronger than her and I have hurt her accidentally before. It is always a consideration, even when holding her hand.

  17. What lol? No, it takes effort to use strength and as much as I enjoy the gym, gym strength ≠ real life practical strength.

    So no I don’t have to consciously subdue myself.

    What I do have to do is consciously walk slower. Being way taller than most women I was friends with meant that I’d be walking normally and they’d have to kind of hustle-walk to keep up with me and I would be totally ignorant of it if they hadn’t mentioned it.

  18. Gotta make sure the fingernails are trimmed and clean. But that’s about it. I think if I was with a very petite woman I might be a little concerned, I dunno. Never been with a petite woman though.

  19. Nah, unless you’re actually sparring with them in a martial arts class or playing some co-ed sport.

    I don’t accidentally crush a glass or tear a flimsy interior door off its hinges either. You spend your entire life using the minimum application of force, the maximum is only required in a few athletic and handiwork related scenarios.

  20. For some women who are really sensitive, yes. Especially when playing with their lady parts.

  21. Yup. It takes effort. Comfort is disarming so sometimes I forget my wife is dainty compared to my older brother. My touch and grip are too much for my wife at times. Everyone’s different though.

  22. Yes, I’m very self aware of my size and strength so I try to be gentle, unless she specifically says something

  23. If i could, i would pick her up and separate her soviet butt from her clothes! Sorry, i was loud thinking.. of course i would be extra gentle and soft, as if i would handle a potato with extra gloves. x)

  24. My personality is calm and gentle, so for me, being gentle with my wife comes as easily as breathing.

  26. Touching and cuddling is gentle by nature, so for that no. But anything else that is physical yes. Like grabbing your arm to pull you through a crowd, stuff like that.

    Imagine you are hugging a cat. You have to be careful to not squeeze too hard, else you’ll crush it. Same for men when we want to hug you tight.

  27. Sometimes, I guess. It’s not really something I think about. I’m normally quite gentle. Being strong and being rough aren’t the same thing.

  28. People aren’t three level strength, we aren’t on or off.

    It takes mental effort to use your strength and actually the more strength you have the more aware you are of it.

    Average strength man is more likely to accidentally use more force than necessary than someone who has went to the gym since they don’t have reference to their strength.

  31. yes

    in fact i have to consciously be gentle when touching anybody

    it comes out the most when play fighting.

  32. In general sure. I try to always act gentler / softer around women. Just seems the kind thing to do

  33. I have found that many women prefer a strong man to a milquetoast man. She wants to be ridden hard. Show your strength.

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