I meet a lot of people easily but nobody wants to do anything with me. Why?

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1. Well, why should people do anything with you ? It cannot be because you are lonely and need attention. What are they going to get out of doing anything with you ? Typically, people look for somebody who is confident, fun, interesting to be around, or adds some kind of positive energy or positive vibes. They deduce it from the way you act and carry yourself around them. There are verbal and nonverbal cues that you give off that show you are anxious, unconfident, worrying, overthinking, etc. and they subconsciously deduce you are not that positive person they want to hang out with. For example, being overly quiet and not participating or contributing in past social interactions you had with them. You need to practice putting yourself out there and talking to people in a confident manner.

   Also, people naturally recognize, appreciate, and value you when there is something respectable about you. Do you have skills, talents, hobbies ? Can they impact people ? People subconsciously attach you to the value you bring.

2. Maybe ask a trusted loved one if there is anything you do that may be offensive. Are you overly nervous? Are you very negative? Odors? Etc. a therapist would be able to tell you. Hang in there… people are very busy with the holidays and may not be open to new friendships now.

3. Are you inviting them to things? Have you established a relationship with them? It’s unlikely people are going to show up to something held by someone they met one time, unless they too are actively trying to make friends.