Married for 3 years and she’s never been comfortable with oral and we used to do it but stopped because she thinks it’s taboo and she thinks it’s wrong from religion standpoint even though there is nothing that says it’s wrong. I don’t know what to do. I’m not even expecting it in return but being able to give her cunnilingus is a major turn on. I even suggested that it doesn’t have to be every time but still no. I feel frustrated and it’s stupid but not being able to do this one thing really turns me off and I feel like it’s making me distant in our sex life. I’ve told this to her but she became upset because I told it turns me off not being to give oral to her. I’m lost. Plz help!
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Well if she doesn’t like it, she doesn’t like it.
Everything else would be you forcing her into something which she might just endure because you want to do it.
Talk to her again and make your point clear once more. You love to do it and would do anything if you could do it.
Not every girls likes to get licked down there, just like not every man likes to get a blowjob.
If she’s not comfortable with it, and you’ve discussed it, I’m not sure what else you can do. Being that it’s so important to you, and so off limits to her, I kind of wonder how you got to this point. What happened when you used to do it? Did she like anything about it?
It’s a difficult situation, and I understand completely, because I’m the same. Giving oral is my biggest turn on, and it is almost impossible for me to get into sex without it. For me, this conversation comes up on pretty much day 1. I don’t want to get that far into a relationship and not be compatible sexually. It leaves a very tough decision to make going forward.
hopefully you don’t yet have children because that will make getting a divorce easier. married for only 3 years so you won’t have to pay spousal support/alimony. will have to pay for lawyers, amd split up whatever little bit of property/assets you’ve acquired over the last 3 years. that’s a small price to pay compared to a lifetime without giving and receiving oral sex. if you stay with your current partner, you will undoubtedly run into extended periods of time where PIV vaginal sex is off the table due to health reasons, pregnancy pain, childbirth, etc. so you’ll likely get nothing. nothing for months at a time. good luck. go find a partner who likes giving and receiving oral sex and you will have a much more satisfying life sexually.
Lol that means she does not love you anymore