I (m, 21) started dating my girlfriend (f, 20) a couple of months ago. To add some context, she was a virgin when we met because she was waiting for a relationship and never really got into one before me and my body count is 22. My body count being that high did add and still does add some strain on the relationship but that also means I have experience so I know what to do. I never really had an issue with getting girls wet until now. I had the occasional issue here and there but never consistently. After about a month of having sex, we’re still having to use lube. She says she’s horny but she doesn’t get much stimulation from having her clitoris rubbed, even from herself. Im not really sure what the issue is or if I’m doing anything wrong but then she also starts to feel bad and that shes “a bad girlfriend” (although she really is awesome). I never get angry or upset with her because I know it’s not her fault. If anyone has any advice, please let me know.
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Have you found her clitoris tissue inside her vagina ? Slang term is g spot?
Just use lube and stop thinking that needing lube is a problem. Women don’t all produce the same amount of natural fluid. If you’re both enjoying yourselves then have fun learning what feels best for both of you and don’t worry about needing lube. Wetness isn’t a test grade.
Not all woman get aroused by clitoral stimulation. Try other erogenous zones like kissing the neck and nipples. Use lots of lube and possibly incorporate a vibrator for added stimulation.
Try going softer and longer with the foreplay. Feather touches over her whole body. Feather kisses over her whole body. They can feel like lightning. Just take it even slower. And softer. I find so many guys just jump straight in to the clit and the vagina and they use too much pressure and friction. That should be built up to SLOWLY.
Still, sometimes I am dripping wet and sometimes dry as a bone and it has nothing to do with desire or arousal. Don’t think too much about it. Lube can be sexy. Drizzle it onto your dick. Or slowly glide it all over her. Have fun with it. Nothing wrong with needed lube.
To be honest every partner is new so don’t compare to your 20 other woman she might be completely different. Just explore together what you two like. My girlfriend didn’t like anal at all before she met me.