I’ve been feeling “weak” lately, more so than I would have expected after being sober of alcohol for 3 months. So, I am going to quit Reddit (too much NSFW stuff on here), and porn, and going to drastically cut down on masturbation, before having the sex talk with my wife next week. I want to be feeling all of the effects of my testosterone when we have that conversation. I have started to see interest in her eyes, but we are still making adjustments. I am getting used to a work schedule where I work nights four days a week, and she will start her part time job (also working nights), but on the days that I have off.
I feel that it is really important that I be off of the poison (Reddit, porn, excessive masturbation) before that conversation because I don’t want to be a push over. I know that wife has emotional and personal needs and wants that she needs me to fulfill, and I plan to, but I feel like we need to get the sex ball rolling after almost four years.
I think that cutting down on masturbation and removing porn completely will allow my brain to produce the amount of motivation needed to get both my wife and I on the right page. I am sure she misses the physical part of our relationship too. I also want to seriously get in shape, and it is almost impossible with the porn and stuff too.
Trying to fix everything up.
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Sounds like a great decision! Good luck!
Good luck. I think it’s a good decision.
Porn isn’t you’re problem but a crutch, so you should figure out why you’re an alcoholic and addicted to porn before you quit cold turkey. Without solving the actual problem, it will be a tough road. I do wish you the best though.
yeah good idea. IMO the time you spent on porn should’ve/ could’ve been spent on bonding sexually together.
Hope it’s not too late.