I’m worried that I’ll never find love or a long-term, stable relationship. I’m 33F and I’ve had a few boyfriends but mothing serious. I’m relatively successful and have a great group of friends but I feel hopeless. I’ve always wanted to find the person I would spend my life with. I had a rough childhood and I used to image what my life would be like when I grew up and had a nurturing partner and safe home. Most of my friends are married and I’m deeply, deeply lonely. I’m worried that the trauma I have from my childhood will make me unable to be loved (I cry sometimes for no reason and occasionally have nightmares that lead to panic attacks, I do have a therapist and psychiatrist). Christmas is coming up again and I almost can’t bear it. I just so want my own little try and christmas morning with my partner. Does anyone have any advice? I feel like I’m sinking deeper and deeper into despair. Like it’s too late for me to find someone
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Your trauma past or present, does not affect your ability to be loved. It may make it harder to see sometimes, but you definitely can be loved and deserve love
Additionally, it’s never too late (I guess technically if you want your own kids you do have a timeline, but you’re still not past that yet). I became a widower at 32, and I certainly didn’t just give up (my ex wanted me to move on and find happiness and I intend to do that).
You aren’t late. you can significantly heal your trauma in 1 year or less. Look for therapists specialized in trauma.