My boyfriend has a porn addiction and he wanks off to other girls more then he wanks to me. I’ve also told him soo many times I don’t like it and he always tells me he’ll stop but he keeps watching.
Im really grossed out about how he wanks to other girls more and he just won’t listen to me what should I do?
Is that wrong or normal
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Mam you are dating someone with an addition. Naked girls are naked girls no matter the person. Just like cocaine is still cocaine no matter the quality.
But men watching porn is normal even if they’re in relationships.
Give him more so he has less stamina? Maybe it’s excess libido?
I hear the term porn addiction thrown around a lot. How much porn are we talking about here?
Porn is a serious addiction for a lot of people, and it can destroy intimacy very easily over time
From reading your comment replies it’s clear he has a porn addiction. What’s worse is he’s uninterested in working on it with you. You already know what you need to do but here’s some more advice.
Relationships are all about building connections. Sex is one of the most important connections in a relationship and most relationships don’t survive without it. In this situation, your boyfriend has stopped (or perhaps never was) seeing you as his primary sexual partner. For him, it’s his addiction. And this is not satisfying to you, so sex has also soured for you.
A relationship must have connections in order to stay together. Some people have hobbies together, others have businesses. A common one is children, and sometimes people just love spending time with one another. But sex is sometimes so important without the it the other connections fail. Still, if you need to work through something like this in the future, find those connections and use them as a path to talk about the loss of your sexual intimacy. Because if you can’t get through to your partner about it then it’s clear it’s over.
And in this case I think you already know that.
I disagree that erotic imagery is an addiction (there is no biochemistry, an *agonist* or *antagonist* foreign to and interacting with the central nervous system creating dependence). It may be a behavioral compulsion. It is most likely immoderate gratification. Mostly, I think it is a normal part of male sexuality, and that some of the incredible vitriol we see online toward “wanks” is rooted in *misandry*. Were the situation reversed, I doubt vibrator embargos and romance novel burning would be so readily accepted.
It sounds like you have control issues regarding what your boyfriend enjoys doing with his own body. Ultimately, though, I cannot control your feelings and actions and more than you can control your boyfriend’s feelings and actions. You have tried to control him. You have failed to control him.
If you no longer feel that you and your boyfriend are compatible, there is nothing wrong with breaking up.
This is wrong. You can expect better from him
So i gave up porn for my ex. Never regretted it.
I was pron addicted for sure, but i loved our relationship more than i loved porn so i gave it up.
We arent together anymore, and i still rarely watch it.
This is his personal issue, jus as if he were addicted to any other drug hes gonna have to want to stop for his own reasons or he wont. You cant make him stop unfortunately.
It is not a ‘wrong,’ or a ‘normal.’ in the stated OP. It is your clear boundary that is consciously crossed. That said, is the free internet porn industry niched or uncommon for ppl to watch enjoy? No. The wrong is that you stated a boundary and they didn’t respect. Lose the boundary or the bf. Full stop.
From another girl who dated someone into porn, I’d break up with him.
Girl, get a new boyfriend.
He’s clearly not interested on working on his addiction for for you. He needs help. You need someone to treat you right. I’m sorry.
Nothing wrong with touching yourself.
Does it impact your relationship or barely an inconvenience?