Idk where to start. I’ll provide some background:
The root of the problem is my mom’s side of the family. My grandmother favors my mom’s sister so much more than my mom and they basically walk all over my mom. They don’t respect her and they do whatever they want. For example, my grandma purchased a huge expensive home and had my aunt (my moms sister) live in it for free for 12 years. They saved up enough money to even buy a whole house of their own in cash and my grandma STILL gave them more money. My grandma withheld my mom’s fathers (my Grandpa’s) life insurance money as well even though she was supposed to get money from it. My Aunt and my Grandma team up against my mom and take advantage without giving much back in return.
My dad is an extremely hard worker. He works long and hard. It kills him that we get the short end of the stick while my aunt’s family lives in such luxury literally due to my Grandma. My mom however doesn’t care. She lets them walk all over her, and us, and often even takes their side over my dad’s. So they’ll come over, eat all of our food, and leave, while my dad slaves away all day every holiday. Then the next week my aunt and my grandma make some sort of secret financial deal behind my mom’s back. It’s a super toxic situation. My mom defends them in the end which makes things terribly worse
The problem is, my dad is fed up with it. He’s tired of it, and quite frankly, so am I. We are honest hard working people and we don’t deserve it.
Long story short, we had a huge blowout tonight.
Originally they were going to come over for thanksgiving, then they cancelled on us. So my dad said ok, I’ll make enough for just my family then. Then, out of nowhere my mom says that they’re coming over after we did all the shopping. My dad gets pissed off and says that that’s ridiculous. My mom gets defensive back and tries to make my dad out to be a fool. My dad, clearly angry, says that it’s ridiculous that they have the ability to just override our plans and my mom lets them.
I get fed up and I tell my mom that it is absolutely ridiculous that we don’t even have enough food for everybody right now. My mom snaps back at me and it just turned into an explosion. Then my dad told my dad something hurtful that was way out of line. Basically, we’re going out of state to visit my dad’s brother. My dad hasn’t seen him since the death of their other brother 15 years ago which was traumatic. My mom says “well you’ll go all the way there to visit your brother yet have an issue with having my sister over”. Like what the fuck? Is it just me, or is there a major disconnection going on. She’s comparing my dad’s brother to my manipulative aunt like that? Delicate situation too, they haven’t seen each other since their other brothers death. I felt that was super fucked up. Then she says how “I’m all alone I want my sister around” like..sigh. God forbid they just casually hangout and do something but there always has to be something in it for my aunt it seems like for them to hangout. Again, my mom doesn’t give a shit.
tl;dr I just walked away from the argument. I feel disgusted quite frankly. I’ve given my family thousands of dollars to help out and my dad slaves away all day so my mom makes us out to be a piece of shit because we’re tired of being taken advantage of by her nutty family.
What do you think about this situation