okay so i feel like im entering my ‘talks to everyone, yet nobody likes me” era, i was very shy during middle school having no friends at all but that changed as i entered high school. I didn’t become super socialble but i stopped caring about what people thinks of me which has helped me talk to people. Im in my first year of uni, i talk and say hi to people who i know of and im trying to make my own friend group. Im trying to join this group – theyre very nice, i hang out with them in uni but they make me feel so felt out. Maybe im overthinking but im a very observant person so i notice how they treat me so differently to others who are already in the group… fair i get it, they know each other longer and better but but what makes me so mad is when a stranger comes and talk to us everyone acts super interested like theyre all over the person, it makes me feel so jealous. I always feel left out even with my old friends some of them treat me so shit choosing their new friends over me. Like i cant help ponder WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG ME WITH, why does no one likes me nor wants me. IT MAKES ME FEEL SO HORRIBLE REALLY MAKES ME WANT TO STOP TRYING.
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Well, why should people include you ? It cannot be because you are lonely and need attention. What are they going to get out of talking with you ? Typically, people look for somebody who is confident, fun, interesting to be around, or adds some kind of positive energy or positive vibes. They deduce it from the way you act and carry yourself around them. There are verbal and nonverbal cues that you give off that show you are anxious, unconfident, worrying, overthinking, etc. and they subconsciously deduce you are not that positive person they want to hang out with. For example, being overly quiet and not participating or contributing in past social interactions you had with them. You need to practice putting yourself out there and talking to people in a confident manner.
Also, people naturally recognize, appreciate, and value you when there is something respectable about you. Do you have skills, talents, hobbies ? Can they impact people ? People subconsciously attach you to the value you bring.
Let me tell you something and I’m in highschool keep being you and don’t be friends with people who make you feel like that but also work on why you feel like that . Are you making your presence known? are you letting them lead the conversation ? Are you in the moment or thinking about what your gonna say next or what they’ll think? And what are your interests is anyone in that group interested in that thing are you comfortable with them? Just think about that ..and also there’s nothing wrong with you if they don’t see that they’re not the ones for you . Love yourself first comes you❤️
Why don’t you invite them to stuff / activities that you’re doing, so you can deepen the friendship(s)
Especially if you’ve got common interests