TL;DR My boyfriend of 6 months is still messaging a girl on SC he met on yubo 1 or 2 years ago.
I am uncomfortable with the fact that this girl is still messaging him continuously on Snapchat after it being 1/2 years. I have told him I have no issue with him having girl-friends but find this specific scenario uncomfortable since none of his friends know of her and I didn’t until recently when he brought up her name.
I know all his girl-friends but didn’t know who this girl was so I asked how he knew her and he went on to say the story was embarrassing and that he went onto the app to find girls when he was single a while back which I have no issue with and that is how he met her.
It might just be a coincidence that this girl started dating when me and my boyfriend started dating but she still remains in very close contact from what he has told me. When I started asking questions about her he became quite defensive and said he “didn’t care”.
I don’t know how to go about this…
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There’s a significant difference between being cordial with a prior partner/sex friend and maintaining a relationship with them. What this says to me is that he lacks impulse control and isn’t investing in you the way you deserve to be invested in. Granted, denying access to certain friends out of jealousy is wrong, but don’t allow that fact to gaslight you in an obviously unfair situation.
It’s only been 6 months. He has no respect for you – he has shown this through responding to your efforts to communicate with him by saying he “doesn’t care”. If he valued you, he would care about something that is concerning you. If he’s hidden her, there is a very good reason. He could be keeping her around as a safety net for if you guys split, or he’s having some fun sexting with her.
Look, just get comfortable with threesomes