Learning social skills is one thing, but it still doesn’t help if you have nothing to say and that’s me, down to my hobbies and everything. I lack the kind of quick witted talking and smart commentary that is almost required in every conversation theses days. The minute I try to talk to someone , they can always immediately tell I’m not the kind that’s fun at parties. Them constantly giving one word answers and nothing else doesn’t help either. But when I try to be less boring I come of as weird and Dumb, rather having confidence. Even if I have confidence I’m too dumb to do anything with it. I’m 26 years old so I can’t get away with things I said when I was a kid.
How do you present your self as less boring or at least how do you require the skills to do so.
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Perhaps it’s just a matter of perspective. There’s always something interesting about the kind of person who observes, and perhaps reacts with no more than a raised eyebrow or a smirk. That alone gets people interested in the silent type, I know it works for me. Instead of trying to get to people, it creates enough intrigue to bring some people to me. No small talk, no witty one liners required, I can be present and paying attention without getting into the mindless chatter. People often feel the impulse to address silence by talking, so being the observer in itself encourages people to talk to you first.