Making my list and checking it twice…you know the rest.

It’s that time of year. Making holiday cards for family and friends. For those of you who do this tradition/gesture, how do you go about deciding who to send to each year?

A lot has happened to me this year and I’m well aware who supported me and who did not. I’m also aware of people who I asked about their day and to hang out and the ones that ignored me and never bothered responding. Maybe I’m just getting old and jaded.

Some people I have been sending cards to for decades and never once have they sent a card back, said thank you, said really much of anything to me all year even when I initiate. Am I making this too complicated? I guess I should eliminate people that don’t value my friendship and cherish the rest right? I don’t know, I feel like a jerk if I don’t send cards to people I always send cards too.

This is a topic that’s been brought up many times by my psychologist. She says I’m too nice and this is why I go about life being depressed at times because I let people take advantage of my genuine niceness. I need to stop. How do you stop caring so much about other people? Sorry for multiple questions. Hopefully there are others here going through the same thing.