I Left the Argument

I Left During Argument

Me (M21) and my GF (F21) got into an argument today regarding the time we spend at each other’s houses during the holidays. I really did want to just see what she had to say so I tried the Gottman method of asking questions and not blaming her. She was not having it for some reason. She was raising her voice and sounding very angry. I asked her what was wrong and she said nothing and that she wasn’t angry or even upset. I didn’t buy it so I said that I didn’t know what was happening and I was just trying to talk. She said sarcastically that everything was her fault and that she didn’t want to talk anymore. I said ok and let her have a few minutes to think. I began talking again and she still wasn’t talking. We were in the car at the time heading towards bowling with her family. I asked her if we were going to talk and she said she didn’t know what to talk about and then said no to talking. I asked her if she should take me back home which she didnt respond to. I said if we weren’t going to talk then I want to go home. She then drove me home and not a word has been said since.

This is a reoccurring problem for us: she shuts down during arguments. This one got under my skin and I didn’t feel like faking it with her parents and i wanted to spend time with her (which she wasn’t having) so i left. Just need some advice.

TLDR: GF wasn’t talking or continuing the conversation after being aggressive so I told her I didn’t want to go to the event if we weren’t going to talk.