How do you guys feel about trans people?

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1. As a 60 year old, I wish trans people had been allowed to be part of society 60 years ago.

2. People can do whatever they want, why should I care how someone wants to live their life if it does not impact me?

3. What is there to feel?

   It’s like asking “How do you guys feel about people with blonde hair”?

   I certainly don’t think there is anything to “accept”.

4. They’re people.

5. The few trans people I have interacted with in person have been super nice, but I have to admit I have not really assimilated to the right… accommodating language that would probably make trans people most comfortable.

   I also have known people before they transitioned (to what extent, I don’t know), and I only don’t interact with them now because they’ve moved to other cities.

   I think I have to draw the line though at trans athletes — specifically men who have transitioned to women competing against women assigned that gender at birth.
   But I am totally a proponent of all-gender competitions to help solve the problem though.

   I don’t really cut people slack if I don’t agree with their views and they happen to be trans, but it really doesn’t come up very often at all (and for good reason) that you hear about a Republican trans person. Caitlynn Jenner is probably the only one I’ve heard of.

6. I feel like they deserve dignity and respect like everyone else. I strive to not view people as their gender race or sexual preferences and just plain old humans. It’s working well and some of the best people I know happen to also be LGBTQ+

7. People are people. (treat all with respect)

8. I accept everyone. What I will say (and probably get down voted) is that now that being gay and trans etc is not stigmatized anymore there is a huge overcorrection in the younger generation. Real life my nephew and all his friends are gay or bisexual because it seems like the cool thing to do now.

9. I think it’s a miracle of modern science that we can change a person’s gender now.

   I also think as a left handed person this is how left handed people felt 100 years ago, except instead of nuns slapping your wrist, it’s the government saying you shouldn’t exist and they are trying to deny you care. So sorta the same but things are way worse for trans people today. And we’ll see trans-panic as the same insanity in 100 years (hopefully much less).

   Also trans people are about 0.01% of the population, so getting in a tizzy about them being able to exist is insane. Just let them have the default set of rights everyone else gets and move on with your life.

10. I only really know one. Generally I don’t think about it much. It only pops into my head when I concern myself about misgendering her when discussing memories from our residential high school days. She would not have been allowed in our dorms as she currently identifies.

11. It doesn’t make sense to me, but that doesn’t really matter. You can do anything with your body you want to, and consenting adults can do anything they want.

12. I don’t really care. People are people.

13. If that’s who somebody wants to be as an adult, cool I got no problem with it.

    I may not play along with everything but I’m never going to go directly out of my way to be insulting to somebody unless they come at me.

    Only true problem I have with some those people is the under swell of people who are pushing for children to be on puberty blockers ( and no they’re not some 100% irreversible piece of magic medicine for anybody who may say that) and are okay with children having the surgery, I won’t debate it, tolerate it, I just think those particular people are sick pieces of shit who should be in jail, outside of stuff like that you do you🤷‍♂️

14. Very pro trans-rights/happiness.

15. I don’t care what you are. I don’t care what you label yourself.

    As long as you are kind, courteous, and you do not harm others, you’re a plus in my book.

16. People are people, who cares?

    The only issues I have are with young people being put on puberty blockers that cause permanent body changes before they are old enough to make that type of life changing decision, and people who feel it is okay to hide that they are trans when dating. Be honest and up front about who you are, some people will choose not to date you because of it (just like they could for any other characteristic), but some won’t care.

17. I’m really happy that trans folks can finally be comfortable in their own bodies. I can’t imagine how horrible it must be to live life feeling incomplete.

    I’ve also got no problems with calling trans people whatever names and pronouns they’d like. It’s a matter of respect IMO.

    As far as locker rooms/bathrooms, I have no problems with trans people using the room of their gender identity. I think each establishment needs to have at least one single use bathroom and locker room for anyone uncomfortable changing or using facilities in front of others, trans or otherwise. If someone is uncomfortable with a trans man or woman in their locker room, they have a place to change… and likewise, if a trans person is uncomfortable with the current state of their body they have a place to change without judgment.

18. My guess is since women can wear clothes that fit either gender and can be “tomboys” without much attention, it allows for greater gender flexibility.

    Men cannot dress as women without garnering a lot of attention and often negative attention. Not ti say this is entirely the reason but I think it logically makes sense to be part of it.

    Women can also be the breadwinner or taken care of by a man. It’s not often that men are in the role of being taken care of and that may be part of the temptation for some as well, to allow them to be in the traditionally feminine only role of being the one in the relationship to “protect”.

    If you’re just asking what I think about people that are trans? I don’t care, people be people and we can’t pick at birth so people choosing in adult life makes sense to me.

19. This topic can carry with it a deeper discussion than I believe that any answer could be sufficient to be considered adequate, but in the long and short of it I am a live and let live kind of person.

20. Could care less

21. Live and let live.

22. There’s a distinction to be made, I think, between a group of people of any sort, and how advocacy on their behalf functions. Specifically related to trans people, one of my best friends has a really good trans pal, and both of them abhor a lot of the rhetoric and political activism about trans people.

    I have more than one trans friend, and an ex transitioned. Love them.

    But a lot of the rhetoric and activism and the quote quote trans lobby strikes me as bat shit.

23. don’t care, as long as they don’t try to force me into some political nonsense debate.

24. I give absolutely zero shits. Trans, cis, gay, white, black, poly, bi, etc.

    It’s terribly exhausting to hear about it every 3 seconds. Just accept that people are people already. Why has it taken us this long to understand that?

25. Honestly, most people rarely encounter Trans people. The ones that I have interacted with are like anyone else. Some good, some bad.

26. They’re people and deserve to be treated like you would anyone else, with respect.

    I don’t care if they’re male to female or female to male. I do not like getting scolded because I gave you the wrong pronoun. I just met you! How the fuck am I supposed to know you want to be called David when you still look like a female and have a soft voice?! Correct me, sure, but don’t scold me. Especially if it’s my first time meeting you. (This isn’t every trans person, I’m just saying I’ve experienced this three times now.)

27. They few I have interacted with have been normal people. There have been some extremists as with any group though. I avoid all the extremes anymore

28. Here’s what grinds my gears:

    All women who use the word partner rather than boyfriend which keeps me from knowing if they are interested in men.

    Women with penises who pass as physically attractive women but don’t let me know and waste my time as I have a strong genital preference.

    Sometimes men at birth who don’t pass as women after their transition can lash out and claim transphobia when I don’t find them physically attractive.

    People who change their pronouns so frequently that they are always different the next time that you meet them and they get angry because you aren’t a mind reader.

    People who think that child molesters would dress in women’s clothing just to hear someone use a public restroom.

    The conservative child grooming hypothesis. That gay actor from Star Trek made a good point on his Twitter page. He was born gay and many people since childhood tried to groom him to be straight but it never worked.

    Book banning and banning gay teachers from talking about their spouse or having a picture of their family on their desk while allowing it for heterosexuals.

    Ignorant people who are adamant about it being a mental illness and can’t for a moment consider that it could be that the brain’s right and the body’s wrong rather than the brain’s wrong and the body’s right.

    I think that’s about it. I consider myself a trans ally. I’m happy to call you by whatever name that you like and use your preferred pronouns and I vote in your favor.

29. Not Trans people per say, but I don’t like being called transphopic because I want to date real biological women. This is normal.

30. No opinion. Don’t know any so until then I don’t care.

31. Full disclosure, I don’t know the proper terms so someone feel free to correct me.

    I’ve noticed there are 2 types of trans people. Those who transitioned via hormones and surgery, and those who didn’t.

    Not gonna lie it’s weird to see a middle aged man wearing a short skirt and heels. Honest question, what is the difference between a cross dresser and a trans woman who isn’t/won’t go through the sex reassignment procedure?

    I’ve met trans people who went through the reassignment procedure and they’re totally normal, nice people.
    At the end of the day it’s their life and they can do whatever they want.

    I will say I don’t think trans women should be competing in sports against cis girls/women. This may be a bigot sounding opinion on Reddit but I think they have an unfair advantage due to size, strength, muscle mass, etc.

32. A cousin I saw only at reunions and a college acquaintance transitioned and both chose to completely isolate themselves from
    their pre-transition social spheres, even though we were all nothing but supportive (can’t speak for the family of my acquaintance but our friend group at least). I found that to be sad. I understand that they’ve probably suffered and are trying to figure it out, but its just too bad.

    Also, my cousin post transition chose to become an escort. He was an empowered, high-end, socialite type of escort, and at the time he seemed to be gratified by it, but after a couple years he left that city to live on a farm and had to kick a drug habit. It made me sad to see him struggle and it made me think perhaps the escorting wasn’t as empowering as he made it out to be.

    I have a coworker who came into my workplace post transition and I get along fine with her. Our relationship is at happy hour chatting level. The trans part is a non-factor.

    That’s about all I can say as far as what I think about trans people. I don’t engage with the culture war and those are the only trans people I’ve known.