Help eating out

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1. Have you two watched any porn together? It might help you / her realize what she’s looking for and comfortable with.

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3. Three things:

   1) look for Nina Hartley’s video on how to eat pussy

   2) get *She Comes First* by Ian Kerner

   3) ENTHUSIASM! Just like the best blowjobs are when you can tell she’s dying for your cock, eat that pussy like it’s the key to saving the planet. Get your hands under her ass and lift her up to you. Or hook your arms around her legs and pull her down to you. Eat that pussy like you MEAN IT!

4. Hey. Bearded dude here.

   Sex and unlocking the next step is often a head game. If you setup things just right it can help women a lot with being into the act. Then once things have gone very well a few times it becomes second nature.

   I will take some time here and tell you what I would do. I will separate it into 2 phases. Pre game and action time.

   **Pre game.**

   Help your woman / set her up for an awesome time. To do that you want her to be in a content and relaxed state of mind before you even begin. Here are things that I think help:

   – Target the right time of the month , you are in this marriage for the long haul, so be patient and find the right moments. Find a time when there she is usually the most into sex. Maybe she has an idea what kinda day she thinks she the most horn dog. Its not utterly critical but it can help, For example half way between periods.

   – Help her have an awesome day. You cook , make sure the house is clean and laundry is done.

   – Then you guys have a nice dinner that you alone or both of you prepared. Not too heavy so you guys aren’t bloated or half sedated.

   – If something serious is bothering her outside of your or her control. Then maybe just support her and try another day.

   – Spas are great too ! Or maybe she likes to get her hair done to feel more sexy.

   – You guys drink wine or other spirits? If you do a slight buzz usually takes the edge off.

   – If she is worried about her taste. 2 things: One both of you should clean up down there as shortly beforehand as possible. My wife can be uncomfortable about her taste and I eat her out pretty much every single time we have made love. She has a quick bath RIGHT beforehand 95 times out of a hundred and I have a shower, so we are super clean. Second thing is. PINAPPLE JUICE. Quite often (every time I seen a woman drink a couple cartons of it in the days before) it gives the vagina a very nice slightly sweet flavor.

   – Your stubble : Try lotion or other aftershave.

   – **Be clear,** with each other that if things don’t work then no judgement, everything is fine, **NO PRESSURE**. Pressure kills the fun and often the mood.

   – ALL your goal will be is letting you guys feel each other.

   **Action Time**

   Before you start with oral warm your partner up, With a nice massage. I usually start with a massage that turns into running my hands lightly wherever she will let them go ( DONT TOUCH NIPPLES OR VAGINA OR BUTTHOLE YET.) Awaken her senses with your touch. Ask her to lay back , relax try and just focus on your touch , to feel it wherever it goes. Work your way in. Arms n legs first, then outer thighs and maybe belly , neck , back. Then if she isn’t on her back turn her over shares some kisses and work closer to the vagina and the breasts. Then invite her to open her legs for you.

   Performing oral is part exploration, part repetition, part artform. At its most reduced though its about feeling your partners Sexual organ with your tongue. Again start from the outside of the area and work your way in. Just feel their labia’s, feel the skin to the outside of it, Feel the ridges, feel the peaks. There is no great secret to oral but just using your tongue to literally explore her every crease and fold. As you explore take note what areas get the most response, does her breathing change ? Does she twitch or even let little gasps or moans escape. Take note of the areas.

   YOU should absolutely study a diagram of the vagina. The clitoris is usually the highlight and area that will make most women cum. ALWAYS START GENTLE! with the clit. It is the single most sensitive spot a woman has. You can slightly pull the hood back with your nose on the pubic area or with fingers to expose it more. SUPER GENTLE If you use fingers always use lube on the clit.

   You can ever so gently flick it left to right or up and down, or go around it. See what she responds the most too. maybe you need to add more pressure. WHEN she really responds to what your doing , Then don’t stop doing that thing for a while (unless she stops responding).

   I can usually get my wifes first orgasm with nicely doing that to the clit, After the first orgasm she is super sensitive so I can often get her a second orgasm by ever so slightly going up and down on the inner lips to her vagina , just ever so slightly playing up and down those ridges with the tip of my tongue. Then if she’s up for a third orgasm I start lightly but then go in heavier on the clit, drives her wild and I have to hang onto her so she doesn’t buck out by accident.

   Good luck dude.

5. OKAY. May I help you out as someone who enjoys eating women out. And at least very few have complained (actually none. Lol). First.. y’all have been together for 9 years?? Y’all been married since she was 19?! Crazy.

   Anyways.

   1) if you don’t already do so. Lots and lots of kissing and teasing and licking. I’m talking about the lips, the inner thigh, everything around.

   2) I don’t have facial hair so I don’t know about that. But I‘d assume.. EITHER really shave it ALL to skin… or let it grow out long enough to be fluffy.
   Inbetween can be poky.

   Now to out.

   3) let your tongue.. RELAX. Soft!!
   And just press it gently against where you can feel her lips are spreading and go upwards towards where you know her clit is.

   Do that as often as necessary till her clit is starting to swoll a little bit, cause that means there is more blood and she is stimulated more.

   Next try to push your head into it…
   STILL leave the tongue soft.
   You want pressure, not a stiff tongue.

   And then… maybe insert a finger or two and go an upwards – outwards movement in the same rhythm her pelvic goes down.

   So you’re making sure that there is tension and rubbing going on inside and outside on the clit.

   Match her tempo, and intensity.. and maybe that can help her have a more intense experience.

   Hope that helps~
   (For the women. If I have left out anything important – I apologize)

6. Licking outside on inner thigh and teasing before ever touching her, building the anticipation beforehand, then licking lips and opening before moving to clit.

   Once you hit a good spot on her clit and she lets you know DO NOT CHANGE what you’re doing. Some people think they’re gonna whip out a super Saiyan move all the sudden. Lol continue with what works. While you’re doing that: Two fingers moving slowly in and out while rotating them from right to left. Very slowly.

7. women here who is also anxious in the bedroom go slow, and when your down there you have to be confident even if you aren’t really. reassure her a lot telling her how good she’s doing, how beautiful she is, etc. when giving head watch her body and listen to her, you should be able to tell by the way she twitches if your doing good. play with her clit, many men forget to do that but it always feels good when you need a break yk. when you shave look for some exfoliater to help smooth your skin.

8. For your beard, use beard oil and brush it daily.

   One thing that makes for a fun and hot experience is to get her to tell u what she likes and how she likes it. First start asking her “do u like when I do this?” Then do it. Then “what about this?” And switch it up to something different.
   When all else fails eat that pussy like it is your last meal ever.

9. NO Ed here lol