Where do you derive your confidence?

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1. what confidence, you motherfucker?

2. From knowing that I am talented at certain things. Focus on your strengths and not your weaknesses.

3. Lifting weights and being funny.

4. Lots of things.

   I’m married. I have a good job and make decent money. I lived by myself and supported myself before getting married so I know I can make it just fine on my own. I’m not the best looking guy in the room, but I’m not ugly. I’m fit. I never got fired or had any repercussions at work for incompetence, so I know I’m reasonably smart enough to do a job. I graduated and had an easy time in school when others were struggling.

   Lots of things to be confident about. None of this makes me special. I bet a lot of this applies to a lot of dudes here, even you. Confidence is just about being realistic about who you are and what your accomplishments are. Give yourself a pat on the back when you deserve it and learn to recognize when you do something good.

5. Simple I derive it from myself. It comes from anything that I know I’m good at and apply it to things that I’m just starting or aren’t expecting to be great at

6. My internalized narcissism and arrogance

7. In your ability to get things done. That’s it. Regardless of what’s going on. Do you trust yourself?

8. From my don’t give a fuck personality.

9. I know I’m dope and I simply don’t give a fuck if anyone disagrees

10. The boys telling me I’m funny and my grandma calling me handsome

11. internalized delusional grandiosity coupled with lust for a meaningful death

12. Confidence? What confidence

13. From firefighting. Not much is hard to do after that.

14. My what, now?

15. Just by being myself and knowing that nobody could be a better me than me

16. I faked it till it became (mostly) real. Sometime confidence is just a willingness to look into the given task/problem/whatever and give it a go.