I did not have any close friends or friends at work where i can talk about non work stuff. it makes me feel isolated in company events.
I also work from home as does most of my team. But even they have friends among themselves.
i am Not new in the company so any get to know you questions would be weird and not that applicable.
What can I do to change my current situation?
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Listen to me, my guy…. I’m gonna give you the fundamentals of life OK… there’s an old saying don’t mix business with pleasure, my friend you don’t want any friends from your workplace because there could come up opportunity for them to move up at Syd job, even at the expense of throwing you under the bus my guy, so I’ll check I’ll tell you a secret that I practice. Oh so many years you just tell these motherfuckers what they want to hear dog. Kind of rough that you work from home and can’t socialize bro but I’m telling you man you may feel like shit right now, but I promise you man that you don’t even wanna fucking be associated with the bullshit they’re talking about dog because guaranteed 100%. That’s exactly what it is. Bullshit gossiping and talking shit about your coworkers most likely if that’s what you wanna do then by all means fucking just start acting like that man and you’ll fit right in bro but I’m telling you be man fuck em.
Could you organise a drinks night, a team lunch, games night etc? If you all can’t get to meet up physically, virtual quiz?
With Christmas coming, this would be a great opportunity to do it.
Don’t look for friends at work. If it happens let it happen organically. Nothing forced is worth having. Just be yourself man. Try to learn about your coworkers to see if you have anything in common. Ask for suggestions on small things and maybe invite somebody out for lunch one day. Don’t fake it though, always be yourself.
Bring food in. Greet everyone by name. Ask about their kids. Ask to see pictures of kids and pets and then remember their kids and pets names. Ask about them. When someone looks sad slip them a hard candy and look empathetic. As you walk the hallways nod if you dont know their name.
Most important. Smile.