Hi guys, I’m pretty much stuck right now.
A week ago, me (M22) and my girlfriend (F23) and I broke up because it didn’t work out between the two of us anymore. Although we weren’t in a relationship for long (5 months), it still hurts incredibly bad. At the moment we have no contact at all.
A few weeks before we broke up she told me that she is sexually attracted to women, so she is bisexual. She said she wanted to try herself out in the field and sleep with a woman.
My problem right now is that this fact hurts me incredibly much. Every day I picture in my head how she dates and has sex with a woman, how they flirt and how I completely fade into the background for her. I always think to myself that she doesn’t give a shit about me.
Everything in my head about this triggers strong pains in my stomach because it feels like a breach of trust to me.
My question is, does anyone else had something that is similar to this situation?
how do I get over this and her and not care about what she is doing now because we are both going our own way again ?
I don’t want to judge her for what she feels, does and wants to try, but I keep getting hung up on this thought….
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It’s really normal to feel betrayed when someone breaks up with you to sleep with other people. So there’s nothing actually wrong with how you feel and it really hasn’t been that long, be patient with yourself.
I happen to be a bisexual woman, perhaps I can offer insight which might help – she’s trying to explore a side of herself which she couldn’t possibly explore with you. So it’s not that you fade into the background, it’s simply a completely different compartment in her mind. I’m sure if she could have explored this side of herself with you she would have preferred to do that, but it’s the nature of the beast and really, really not personal to you.