Basically, the title. I like that he(38m) feels comfortable enough to jerk off in front of me but idk what I’m supposed to do? Stare at it? Just watch? Talk dirty? I’ve never been in a relationship where it wasnt just making out, a little groping, maybe some head and then sex. We’ve only been together about 6 months.
Also, on that note, I’ve given tons of blow jobs but don’t seem to have the stamina to make them finish most of the time and I have no clue how to give a hand job or what I’m supposed to do while giving one. It takes so much concentration on my end to keep a steady rhythm that if I try to multi-task and kiss or talk I mess it up. Lol. Idk…help?
Last thing….i was going down on my boyfriend and looked up and he was watching porn on his phone. I didn’t mean to, but I got really upset and cried. I can’t have sex right now for medical reasons and it just made me feel not good enough. Am I crazy for that? Thanks to anyone who reads and answers.
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terrible relationship thats letting you feel unwanted
leave
It’s up to you. Watch, play with yourself too, lick his balls, kiss him. Whatever.
The whole porn while giving him a bj is fucked tho. If my bf did that I’d stop immediately and be pissed.
Ask him, what turns him on – perhaps he’d like you to touch yourself; perhaps he’d like you to touch him. I for myself get the max kick as soon as I feel whatever we’re doing is great for my partner.
The porn thing isn’t ok in my opinion: unless you’re consenting to watch porn together while having sex, it’s just rude to do so ‘solo’ while you’re there.
My wife and I have a name for it….it’s called “M&M” mutual masturbation.
If we’ve had sex recently and not wanting to go full throttle again, but we both still have that “feeling.” She’ll ask me or I’ll ask her, “Feel like some M&M?”
She gets on one side of the bed, I get on the other facing each her. She starts playing with herself, I start jacking off, we both rub one out, game over. It’s hot as hell and does the trick for both of us. No porn, no unrealistic expectations, just good connecting. I’ve also learned some hella moves that drives her crazy, because watching her masturbate helps me figure out her rhythms and what she likes. And if you can’t have actual penetrating sex, I would think this might help ?
Mutual masturbation can be explored in many ways.
Girl you are posting about the WRONG problem here😵💫😳
The real problem is him disrespecting you by literally pulling out his phone to watch porn while you were giving him a blowjob…My bf would’ve been an ex immediately and would’ve had to pick his dick up off the floor and take it to go get reattached, so fast bruh.
Bigger problem here is that the dude is watching porn while youre going down on him.
It would be one thing if you were both watching porn togther. Or if there was furst some mutually agreed upon kink (see r/boredandignored ) but it just sounds to me like your boyfriend is being incredibly inconsiderate. I for one would be super turned on by going down on my girl while she scrolled her phone or watched porn….but I wouldnt be totally cool if I wasnt in on the experience, does that make sense?
My theory is you struggle to get him off becuase hes got deathgrip syndrome.
If your boyfriend is struggling to get off, needs porn and needs to jerk off or prefers you to give him a handjob thats most likely why – he needs the added friction of a hand to stimulate his glans.
He is literally saying you are just the warm body in the room while he watches what really holds his attention. This is a new relationship, so he is showing his “best” side…please leave!