Women who previously had toxic or codependent relationships, what did your first healthy relationship look like?

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1. Still in it currently and it’s the exact polar opposite. There’s no fear or resentment or stress, he’s respectful and kind and generous and I don’t have to walk on eggshells if he’s in a bad mood because he is not a sadistic fuck that thrives on fear and has no emotional regulation or empathy. 10/10 would recommend.

2. It’s hard because I feel like I’m broken and good at nothing in a relationship. Sometimes I feel like I’m made to be in some kind of shitty situations to feel appropriate.

3. It looked like being able to have an argument and I didn’t end up feeling guilty, used or manipulated. We had a little tiff, we talked about it… we moved on. It was a fucking revelation

4. Still in the healthy relationship. The relationship is with myself. There is unlimited and unconditional love. Copious acceptance and support. I’m responsible for myself and because of this i have a different type of confidence, a more empowering confidence. I am growing daily in a healthy direction because of the space i have to be, and practice, myself. I’ve never known anything like this. I left the relationship about a year and some months ago so i’m not freshly broken up but when i compare my life then and how completely opposite it is to the life i have now, i still get surprised that i can feel what i do now. It feels so new because, i guess, life is only getting better compared to then when all it got was worse.

5. I never had a healthy one unfortunately.

6. Never had a healthy one, lost hopes now

7. Married him; a lot of misunderstandings at first, growing together, learning each other. I thought he would get mad when I did something/didnt do something. Then he would be confused why I was acting the way I was (as if on eggshells).
   I would shut down and not be able to tell him what was wrong, in fear of being told my feelings were invalid. But he would always show me that he cared what I thought.
   Been together 3 years and I married that mother fucker.