The title says it all.
I’m in my mid-20s, I’ve been in two extremely painful toxic relationships in my life that turned me off from dating for a while. Due to the nature of my job(cam model), I’m aware that unfortunately it’ll be a deal breaker for most guys. So I decided to hold off having any relationships with men until I quit. Just to give you any indication of virtually non existent my dating life is, I haven’t had sex for over 3 years and I barely , if ever, go on any dates.
Months ago I met someone and went out with him once, he doesn’t live in my country, he was just visiting which is partly why I agreed to go out with him as it’d be easier on me to know nothing will come out of that cause he doenst live here versus getting rejected cause of my job. I had a blast with him. Since he left, he messaged me a few times, checking on me and asking when I’m coming to his country(I told him I always wanted to visit and I was going to do it next year).
It’s been months and I still think about him a few times a week, nothing obsessive, just fond memories from the date. But I know that it’s pathetic and I’m not supposed to feel this way about a guy I went out with ONCE.
What’s your advice? Should I start going on dates more just for the sake of it? To make myself less “clingy” ? Should I avoid telling him about my visit when I do end up coming ?