I (22m) can possibly loose my virginity this weekend and I’m not sure if I should go through with it. I’m not very popular romantically or sexually. Honestly I’ve been close to being an incel. Should I hold off or go through with it? I think it could be fun but I’m not sure. Can you all help me? I’d greatly appreciate it.
Edit: I do suffer from depression. I feel like I should loose it so that I don’t feel like a failure of a human being. If there’s more info you want, ask away!
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There is not enough context here to give appropriate advice.
Sexual development is two things at the same time:
It’s a perfectly natural thing; and
It’s a choice as to whether or how you go through with it.
Nobody can or should condemn you therefore for deciding to see what (if anything) sex has for you.
At the same time, nobody can or should condemn you for choosing not to.
Don’t be afraid of sex: it’s more common than humans. But also don’t be afraid of choosing your own pathway to experiencing it.
All that to say, nobody can tell you what you want.
I need more information on the woman (I’m assuming you’re straight) that you have the opportunity to lose it with. How do you know her, how well do you know her, do you think this would be a positive experience for you rather than one you would end up regretting after? This is something you need to carefully consider because I have responded to several posts here on Reddit from both women and men who have not felt good after their first sexual experience.