For those who grew up spoiled, how did that impact how you act as an adult?

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3. I wouldn’t say I grew up spoiled from a materialistic perspective, but I had a privileged upbringing and was spoiled in terms of the support and opportunities I received. As a young adult people often commented on how relaxed and optimistic I was. My general outlook on life and any challenges I faced was ‘everything will work itself out’.

   As I grew older and more independent I realised this isn’t true, things worked out for me because of the support and opportunities I had access to. As an adult I find I don’t have the same drive and motivation as others do in some aspects of life. Once I start something I have a strong work ethic, but I’ve realised I’m not proactive in seeking out things and tend to wait for them to come to me. Since understanding this I’ve become way more proactive, but I think I probably missed out on certain opportunities when I was younger because I lacked the drive to make them happen myself.

4. I was spoiled, I’m the youngest of three and the age difference is 6&9 with my siblings. In my case I do not feel entitled or look down on people. I’m just lucky that I got so much love.

   I also see other spoiled people who feel entitled etc so its very subjective I guess.

5. Ignorant on the difficulties that other people faced. I might’ve had a dysfunctional family emotionally but always food to eat, comfortable shelter and things I wanted.

   I didn’t realise there were so many people out there not living life like me. I wasn’t a brat but I just didn’t know how hard things were. Then I didn’t know how to handle hardship when I was older but we learn.

6. It’s the only way I know how to show love. My family used to come home, spoil me with money and gifts and then leave for work again as much as they could. Some of them barely even knew me as a person. So I grew up thinking that money and gifts equals love and affection, which resulted in me being an aloof shopaholic as an adult. I’m trying to unlearn this and remind myself that shopping stuff I don’t need isn’t the only way to take care of myself. My debts are nearly all payed off and my ID-number is blocked on most credit sites. I got a legal guardian to help me set budgets and learn. I’m making progress.