I’ve been single for a while now and I’m at that point where I’m happy with my life but I would love to share it with someone who is on the same page as me. In this day and age though (especially living in London), I feel as though my chances are limited to either dating apps or chance encounters.
I have attempted dating apps, which I’ve found to be fruitless as the men I’ve come across are either looking for a fling, act interested and then disappear after a while with no explanation or the attraction just isn’t there.
I don’t drink or go clubbing/parties etc. due to religious beliefs nor do I have any hobbies which could result in me meeting new people. I don’t even have a huge circle of friends so I feel like it’s pointless asking them if they have anyone in mind who they could potentially set me up with. I don’t want to go down the arranged marriage route as even though I love my family to bits, I wouldn’t want them involved in my love life. I’d rather find and get to know someone at my own pace without the pressure of family introducing me to a guy and then pushing me to tie the knot with him. I want to get married when I’m ready.
I feel as though even my ‘chance encounters’ are zilch. I could never ever dream of approaching someone in the streets or whilst out shopping as 1. I’m super shy and 2. They’d probably think I’m crazy. The only place where there’s a slight opportunity of meeting anyone would be at work. But even then, I work in a busy hospital environment so making relationships is the last thing on anyones mind. The thing is (and I don’t mean to sound big headed), I’ve noticed that men do check me out. When I converse with colleagues they flirt at times and compliment me but it never comes from people who I want it to come from lol. Majority of the time, it’s married men/men in relationships which is gross and something that I would never ever consider.
So yeah, I would appreciate any sort of advice or tips on how I could go about finding the right person or even just to hear your stories of how you met your partners when you’d almost given up to help me feel a little less shitty.
Thank you in advance
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What is the religious belief against clubbing/parties? You don’t have to drink alcohol while you are there….
I think trying to meet people with similar interest is your best bet. Also, you have to get to know a lot of people before you find 1 who is compatible with you. Just be patient and persistent with trying to meet people and don’t force anything.
Its crazy when you realize there are a lot of men who are in the same state as you are and is longing to find a partner. Be open to new people, talk to more men out there work, traveling and if you feel interested in someone say it to them. Life is too short to not take chances. Hope you find your guy
Sounds like the only people youre interested in are out of your league. Theres only a tiny tiny amount of religious teetotalers who are gonna meet your attractiveness standards and they probably got married right out of college.
Most guys who fit that bill are gonna be sheltered and weird.
Either adjust your standards, drop the holier than thou act, or accept being alone. The arranged marriage might be your only option if you dont wanna do those 3 things.
You have to make the first move