so there is a girl (F18) that i like and we meet in school bus but don’t talk that much but from a week we are talking a bit more and yesterday some children in the bus were teasing me by saying that how is your GF and i said i dont even have one and then after those kids were gone she asked me if i really have a GF and i told no and then we talked a bit about career and all and then i told i want to go in psychology field and asked if you have any problem u can tell me i will try to solve it as it will enhance my counselling skills too and then she told that her problem was she needed a BF and after that i discussed it with my cousins they said that i should try to ignore her and i have to act like serious and silent but i am all opposite of this and i don’t want to show something like this that i don’t even do in real
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When she said that “her problem is that she needs a boyfriend,” that’s code for “I want to use you to get attention for a little while, so I’ll throw this bait at you, so you think I’m interested, but when I get bored, I’ll stop talking to you.”
Don’t believe me? Start spending more time with her and see where it goes…
Been there. Done that.
Sounds like your cousin wants you to herself!
When she said her problem was that she needed a bf, it sounded like a hint that she was interested in you. Which means, just by being yourself, you are already doing pretty good.
Your cousin is giving you the wrong advice, it’s not great to be the complete opposite when you’re interested in somebody, that doesn’tshow them who you are. Never, ever change your personality to fit with someone.
Do you want a girlfriend that only likes you for the pretend version of yourself or do you want her to like you for your authentic self?
Maybe ask her to hang out sometime? Just keep being you bro, you’re doing great, and good luck!
First of: yeah, your cousins advice is crap. You only can pretend for so long to not be yourself. Second thing: next time you see her you tell her you thought about her problem and you want to help her. And than you invite her to a date.
Your cousins are giving *terrible* advice. She was concerned that you had a GF, you said no, and then she said, oh, what a coincidence, my problem is that I need a BF…
Don’t play dumb games. Tell her you want to help her with her problem, you like her and ask her on a date.