Introverted me (M30) and my extroverted friend (M30) seem to have differing views on what confidence *is*. To me, it’s being able to stay calm and attentive to my date, with good posture, and contributing in slightly slower and softly spoken voice with good eye contact. To my friend, it seems to be the opposite. He’s more in their face, probably being more animated and energetic than normal. And perhaps more overt in his flirting and louder than normal. Well?
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Depends on the lady’s preference, but as an introvert myself, I prefer men who are calmer and more attentive on a date. Extroverted men drained me, simply because I couldn’t keep up with their loud and energetic nature.
I believe that both examples are a way of showing confidence. There’s no reason why both tactics wouldn’t be correct is there?
Both. I use a mix of both depending on my date’s energy.
You are both confident males as you are t scared of being who you truly are.
Only if you stay true to yourself, you can attract the right girl.
Don’t be a people pleaser and don’t be an arrogant arsehole either unless you are truly one of those.
To me, confidence is more a state of mind that you know what you want and you know what value you bring to the table, whether you’re introverted or extroverted. Oh and also choosing and arranging where to go for the first date as a guy exudes confidence to me!