I went on purpose to an University where i didn’t know nobody and i knew my friends from highschool won’t be there because they chose another.
I wasn’t ready to hear their stories of girls they sleep with/relationship and stuff like that.
I do the same even now that i obtained my degree and i’m back in my hometown.
I try to stay home and socialize not too much because then, when people start having fun talking etc sometimes bothering questions happens:
“Tell me some crazy hookup story”
” Do you have a crazy ex?”
Or other questions like this, or even normal guys convos like talking about sex position or anything related to girls.
So now i’m stuck because if i want a girlfriend i should be more social, but being more social means exposing myself.
It’s such a bad situation.
And yes those questions are asked, not ALWAYS obviously, but since it’s part of human beings adults to have relationships or sex, sometimes we people talk about that and i risk to be exposed.
Even just having to answer i never had a girlfriend gives me anxiety.
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Do you have no friends at all or just friends of girls? Sometimes we really need to get out of our comfort zone to make a difference in our lives. Analyze what interests you have or what friends you want to see next to you. For example, if you are a person who likes to read a lot, start going to libraries, look into chats for reading lovers in your city and discuss some book there. So maybe someone will be interested in you and this person will want to meet in real life
I had my first real girlfriend at 25, with a couple of insignificant relationships before. I was afraid to expose myself at first, seeing my more “expert” friends around me. But then I realized it made no sense to hide who I really was or my experiences, and my REAL friends accepted me for who I was.
Some toxic people tried to tell me what I should and should not have done with girls. But the right answer was just doing what I felt like doing in that moment.
I don’t know if this is the right approach, but it worked for me.