Girls to me are beautiful. They know how to walk and how to catch our eye. She moves so swift and just everything about her is just flirtatious. I decided to build up the courage after numerous attempts to dating a girl. Only to find out that she’s not into you like that. Yet another rejection onto the list. I’m not saying that I want to give up but I never had a relationship in my life and I’m starting to feel like if I don’t try something new or even have a new outlook in life. I may just never had a woman who wants me for me in my life. I always wanted a girlfriend since middle school but I never had the chance or the opportunity to have one. Now that I’m in college, I’m constantly reminded that there’s other guys that know how to talk to college girls and even know how to hook up with them. Constantly reminded that I don’t know how to get from talking to fucking. It’s a weird scenario because I don’t understand how ugly guys get girls while I don’t get girls. Nonetheless, I spend majority of my college days going to class, going to my job, hardly hang out with anyone. When I do decide to approach, I get nervous. Idk why I get nervous but I just can’t help but wonder what to do next. I get nervous on what to say and what to do. I just want a girl who wants me sexually and emotionally. But idk what I’m doing anymore. It’s been a weird ride of life where I just am starting to go celibate. Just focus on me and the girl will to, right? I doubt that works cause most girls don’t just approach guys. help pls
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If you just want to hook up, there are dating apps. If you want a relationship, you’re gonna have to go out and actually be friends with a girl first. Join a club or something and just talk to people and be friends with no intention of dating anyone. Be nice and courteous and eventually you might find someone you like. Ask them on a date and just go from there.
>They know how to walk and how to catch our eye.
They’re not walking in a way to do this. They’re just going about their business, my man.
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>Nonetheless, I spend majority of my college days going to class, going to my job, hardly hang out with anyone.
Well that’s why we’re having issues. Can’t get a gf if you do nothing to get one.
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>When I do decide to approach, I get nervous. Idk why I get nervous but I just can’t help but wonder what to do next. I get nervous on what to say and what to do.
You’re getting nervous because you’re putting way too much pressure on yourself. This is a complete stranger and you’re walking up to her trying to make her your gf off of a conversation. That’s pretty much impossible.
What you need to do is get into the habit of talking to not just women but people you don’t know in general without trying to get something out of it. Some people would call it “being social”. Try that.
>Constantly reminded that I don’t know how to get from talking to fucking. It’s a weird scenario because I don’t understand how ugly guys get girls while I don’t get girls. Nonetheless, I spend majority of my college days going to class, going to my job, hardly hang out with anyone. When I do decide to approach, I get nervous.
Confidence. That’s what gets women. That’s why you see guys dating above their grade so to speak. They have confidence and that confidence breeds game.
You don’t have confidence because you’re not used to socializing. You get nervous because you’re not in the habit of talking to people, let alone women.
Good news is, you’re young and have plenty of time to fix it. Be more social. Put yourself out there. Start talking to EVERYONE. Make small talk in the checkout line or any other time you can engage with someone. Strangers. Men, women… old, young. Doesn’t matter. Talking to people is talking to people. Get used to it. Get used to making little jokes here and there. They don’t even have to be funny.
Think of it like going to the gym because you want to be a competitive body builder. Every day you’re going to work out. Your muscles will be sore at first (you’ll fuck it up and it’ll be awkward), but over time you’ll get stronger. You’ll get bigger (confidence) and it’ll snowball from there. Focus EVERY DAY on just talking to EVERYONE and building an active social life with friends and it’ll get easier and easier. Once you feel like you can talk to everyone, it’s competition time. Talk to every pretty girl who makes eye contact with you. Smile. It’ll be stressful at first, but you’ll realize they’re just people too. You’ve got nothing to lose just like chatting up the old lady in the check out line.
If you can up your perceived social status, women WILL approach you. Or, in the least, you can make some eyes at them and find ‘easy kills.’ Easy kills are women who are so interested in you that you almost can’t fuck it up. Now, I’m not saying you’ll ever have to worry about beating women off with a stick, but if you’re the life of the party, women WILL notice. Even if they don’t approach, don’t be surprised if you hear from a friend or someone that you made an impression on some girl at a party you didn’t even talk to.