what content is the most helpful for self improvement

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1. It’s not about reading books. It’s about TAKING ACTION! why sit around and read about how you can be better instead of just doing the damn thing

2. Fitness has been huge for me. It helped me feel better physically and mentally. It helped with my confidence and self worth, lowered my stress and anxiety too. Highly recommend.

3. If someone is offering self help in a book, they are trying to rip you off

4. Stop reading books, watching videos, or listening to influencers. Learn to be self-reliant, take responsibility, discipline, and (hardest of all) be honest with yourself. Actual honesty.

5. Andrew tate. Don’t @me

6. Real self-improvement needs to be adaptable. The best is having someone dependable who also wants to improve where you can rely on one another. You may find small guides that can help with specific things, such as how to stick to the routine or they may tell you something you really needed but they can also miss the mark. People are unique and deal with different problems, some may need to cure an addiction and others may need to learn to act better. However there are some constants.

   -Exercise: staying fit helps mentally, however you need to decide this, either become comfortable in your body or find you’re not happy with it and improve
   -Hygiene: take showers, brush your teeth, staying clean helps your mind focus
   -Confidence: Decide what you want to do and follow your passions, be assured in yourself to be better and strong enough to admit when you’re wrong or don’t know
   -Routine: work on yourself and stick to it, learn discipline

   How you get to these things is different for people, most books are lying to you, you may even have other things you need to work on. These things are dependent on your actions, however others can help, joining Alcoholics Anonymous helps people get sober, surrounding yourself with people who also want to self improve helps you get there

7. 1. Fitness. You’ll look better which will make you feel better on that end alone. But it also makes you mentally sharper.

   2. Reading. Either career-related (such as for studying for a certification) or reading literary masterpieces. I think the recognized literary works are good because it makes you more culturally refined, but reading any other books is also good. Non-fiction too! Also studying current events objectively using Wikipedia or google scholar. Most redditors just read headlines and never actually know what is happening in the world.

   3. Travel. If you have the financial means, travel abroad. Experience a foreign culture through the food, the people, the art. It’s one thing to be book smart but traveling refines you even further because you’re living in the culture you’ve read about.

8. Ignoring women is also great.

9. Not reddit 🤭

10. The most helpful information for self-improvement, would be honest and specific advice from people who know you and your situation. There is sometimes a bit of inherent bias in this advice, though, and people close to you are often hesitant to give you advice that could seem critical or hurtful. Still, it’s a better source than impersonal and generalized advice, which usually are presented with levels of vagueness normally seen only in horoscopes.

    There is good information available in every format, but much of the books, social media, and “gurus” are mostly attention seekers in a cheap disguise. At best, they’re motivational speakers, but more commonly, they’re salespeople advertising for their lifestyle products.

    If I may offer my own impersonal and generalized advice, don’t focus as much on improving “yourself,” focus on improving *your life*. Spend more time doing what you like to do, as long as it isn’t harming you. Spend less time doing dumb things that make you miserable–possibly including self-improvement. This could be more time enjoying your hobbies, and less time stressing over which exercise at the gym is best to impress hypothetical future partners.

    It is very tempting to measure your own worth by comparing yourself to others–we all do it sometimes. You’re not Chris Hemsworth or David Beckham. If you’re looking at a person with a “better life” and trying to emulate them, you’ll never get anywhere. Focus on getting a better version of your own life. This is a very attainable goal, and you can do it in baby steps. Clean your room and your bathroom. Unfollow your annoying relatives on social media.

11. My brother, the fact you consider it to be a state of “improving yourself” is where you will go wrong.

    Got to adjust that mindset immediately, or else you will always be inferior compared to your “ideal future self”. That ideal self image will just change in relativity to the “improvement” you make, and you will forever be an organism who lives for their non-existent future self rather than their present self.

    I am no more improved than I was when I was a obese, broke and unemployed. I have just developed my competency in certain areas. Those areas are what I considered to be important to live a more enjoyable day to day life.

    How you wish to learn about those subjects is up to you. A lot of people like books and podcasts, I don’t. I am a visual learner and everything I have learned has come from videos and experience.

    In the end, none of it will matter if you are constantly studying the “theory”. First-hand experience is what will truly teach you. So many I know are addicted to self-improvement content, and it gives the the dopamine rush of feeling like they’re trying… in reality you are not until you do it. Experience is king, and all the self-improvement theory in the world won’t help you unless you practice it.

    It’s like reading endless content about how to drive a stick shift car, it won’t make you good at it. Actually getting in the car and trying to drive it will though.

    I wanted to start a business, so I registered one and did it. I wanted to become jacked, so I went to the gym everyday and did it. I wanted to make more money, so I worked on becoming more proficient in my career. I wanted to learn more about investing, so I taught myself and invested. I wanted to gain better people skills, so I threw myself into more social situations.

    Like you I was just an acorn, and you cannot rush yourself into becoming a great oak. Learn more about the subjects you are attracted to and ultimately your path will be revealed. That isn’t “improvement”, just participating in the journey of life and enjoying the development/rewards that comes with it.

12. I started a podcast focused on finding solutions to anxiety and existentialism and it’s been incredibly useful. I’m basically tricking experts into giving me free therapy 😅

13. What part of you do you want to improve? Start there. Read up on SMART goal making. Make some goals and start working towards them individually.

    If getting more fit is an important goal for you. Establish a specific goal you want to achieve. It should be measurable, physically attainable, realistically possible and achievable on a reasonable time scale. For example: setting the goal: “I want to win the Tour de France next year” is a poor goal, while it is specific, measurable, physically possible (if you have been genetically blessed with high VO2), and has a clear time frame, it’s not very realistic. On the other hand if your goal is “I want to run ten 5ks next year” it’s a good goal. It’s specific, measurable, physically attainable, realistic and timely.

    Repeat this process for other part of your life such as: social life, parenting, savings, learning, promotions. Each of these goals will spark their own area of research and reading.

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