Yes for the record I am quite straight lol. I still love vaginas and the female body. In fact when I was a teen before becoming sexually active even just the sight, image, or description of female genitalia would be a major turn on. I thought eating girls our would be more enjoyable before I actually tried it. I obviously like sex and fingering. But when it comes to giving oral, I’ve had enough bad experiences that I find it kinda distasteful, literally. It’s not the look and feel but rather the taste and smell most of the time.
I only do it under certain circumstances:
– I’m really drunk so I don’t care and push past discomfort
– the girl has to be really hot
– or I really like/love the girl on a personal level
But I’m not the kind of dude that just likes to go down on random hookups as a matter of course. I do it sometimes because they want it, or I want to turn them on before full sex, or because I want oral reciprocated. Forcing myself to do it if it ain’t good sometimes kills my erection tho. I’ve also done it like basically breathing through my mouth only but that kinda weirds them out and turns em off.
There have been a few occasions where they were extra clean, or right after a shower and I liked it but those have been the exception. I have very sensitive smell and taste. And yeah maybe it’s a double standard if I want oral too, but I’m thinking at least dicks are external and exposed and as long as you shower and clean it properly it stays fine, while there can be more sweating and less airflow when it comes to the female situation sometimes, especially if they have a little extra weight.
Any advice for this problem? Should I just learn to like it or be up front with women about it? Sometimes it’s the best way to get a girl off though…
Oddly although most men these days seem to be into it, I know a decent amount of more social conservative or traditional men who never do it and their gf or wives are fine with that. Haven’t asked about the details but I assume they have an arrangement that works for them.
Also something I would never do is eat ass. I honestly don’t get how these new generations have normalized that, but I digress…
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just as not everyone enjoys pineapple on pizzas so are people going to have differences in sexual tastes
everyone is entitled to their own preferences, and that youre willing to try to overcome your personal lack of arousal towards the act means that you’re not too full of yourself lol
as for strategies to make it easier to get past the initial hurdle of the taste and smell, you can look into things like flavoured lubes or other oral sex products (which may be advertised towards women sucking cock but the concept is the same, an individual doesnt enjoy the taste and wants to mask it)
*however* try to make sure that you choose products that are vagina safe! things with sugar in it are not a good idea! do **not** use honey or other foods on the vagina!
Eating ass is really no different than sucking on a nipple. For the giver, it just tastes like skin, for the receiver it hits many, many, many nerve endings and can be quite pleasurable.
I remember the first time I went down on a girl, I remember telling one of my buddies that I was not a fan of the taste or smell. “How can people actually like doing this?”
Fast forward 16 years and it’s almost comical how it’s become and almost Pavlovian acquired taste and smell.
I remember thinking the same thing when I first tried beer or whisky or coffee and here I am today with a bar cabinet stocked with at least 20 different whiskies, a garage fridge absolutely filled with craft beer, and at least 6 different coffee brewing apparatuses.
My point being, I don’t really really think most men truly deeply honestly *like* the taste and smell of vagina. I think if you offered vagina-flavored candy or something most men would not pick that as their preferred snack. I think most of the pleasantness of the taste comes from positive association of sex it acquires over the years. And outside of that, most of the other enjoyment really comes with *giving* pleasure.
All that to say, I believe most people who perform cunnilngus do so despite the taste.
>Any advice for this problem? Should I just learn to like it or be up front with women about it? Sometimes it’s the best way to get a girl off though…
With that said, you’re well within your right to be up front with women and say that you don’t do oral. And they’re well within their right to say that they don’t give head if it’s not reciprocated, or even say they won’t be with a guy who doesn’t eat pussy.
Both are perfectly acceptable.
From a pragmatic POV, think saying you only do it after a shower or bath is probably an acceptable middle ground for most people. I don’t think I’d bat an eye if a girl had the same requirement of me before she’d put my dick in her mouth.
>Also something I would never do is eat ass. I honestly don’t get how these new generations have normalized that, but I digress…
Doing something a girl likes that other guys won’t do increases your value. Sex was talked about less in the past and experiences weren’t scrutinized as much. Whereas now people can post tiktoks saying “get you a man who eats ass,” and girls can see that and go “You know, I think I *do* want me a man who eats ass.”
I’ve never gone down on a girl and never will. Women have no problem with me not wanting to go down on them from my experience. A lot of women don’t like it
You have every right to have your sexual preferences, just like your potential partners have every right to find that a deal breaker. I would be up front about it, bc to people like myself, I won’t be in a relationship where I don’t receive head.
Just a note tho as a bisexual woman, the comparison between dicks and vaginas is a moot point because in my experience, women in general have far, far (I cannot stress this enough) far better hygiene than most straight men. Dicks are definitely not without sweat and grossness and all the things you described lmao. Personally I find eating pussy to be a much more pleasant experience than sucking dick, but it’s all subjective.
Ultimately as long as you prioritize your partner’s pleasure regardless of giving head, the right person for you won’t mind.
Not a fan of it either, it’s an uncomfortable off putting activity physically. Taste and smell of a properly clean pussy isn’t bad.
So it’s a rarity for me to go down.
The taste and smell for me is neutral, so I don’t really understand how people can have a dislike of it. And for my money, a dirty dick smells very similar to a dirty vulva and has the same solution – just give it a wipe down.
Carry wet wipes with you, wipe yourself down, and ask if they’d like you to wipe them down. If they say no and ask for oral, say you want to wipe them down first and give them oral.
Dicks definitely aren’t more hygienic than vaginas and you definitely have not gone down on a dude with bad hygiene lol. Trying to justify it as “well dicks are cleaner” is nonsense. Don’t expect oral if you have zero desire to reciprocate, that’s just basic manners.
If your partner has questionably hygiene or it’s been a long day, you can absolutely ask them to hop in the shower first before you get down to business, if it makes it easier.
ASD?
It’s totally my thing