i don’t understand my mom (f37)

so this week as been a draining my mom joined a religion in october my aunt had been in for a while (jewish messianic) and at first i told her i dont want to join it and she said she understood and today(12-1-22) she told to call off friday and saturday to join them out the blue while at work and i (f17) got really annoyed because it’s common sense that no job allows that and then yelled at me saying she runs the house and that i should listen to her so after work i sat and talked to her about saying im sorry i cant join you guys but i have a job i still have to go to and she said okay, i later explained i can go with them sometime but that i have wrestling tournaments and she responded with “idc you have to come with me because i dont want you to be alone” i responded with “ i can stay with my grandma” she said no and blah blah no solution worked i had to go and then i said i cant commit to it and cant go all the time and she said “your going with me everytime i go because i tell you so.” and the conversation ended there i called my aunt and she seems really concerned as to why shes being so intense about me having to go and she’s going to talk to my mom

-if you guys any advice on how else i should handle this pls lmk

tl/dr my mom is forcing to join a religion and my lifestyle doesnt allow me to commit to it and it’s creating conflict