So, I kinda have a thing going on with this guy at work. We are not in the same team, completely different depts.
I added him on social media first. He texted me first and the conversation stopped real quick. Fast forward awhile later, he posted something on his story so I replied and we talked. From there to midnight.
It was so unfortunate that at the end of our conversation he kinda asked me out, like, we was joking about our tattoos and that it can’t be shown at work because it’s in the places that tacky etc. And then the latest texts were kinda let’s do something and at that point it was almost midnight so I felt asleep. The next morning I texted him first thing. He read my texts and haha reacted and stopped talking with me.
The funny thing was I felt like this could be a break through that when we see each other at work, there wouldn’t be awkwardness anymore etc. I smiled at him when he walked in but dude was like, shrugged and smiled awkwardly? I don’t understand at all.
And then the next day when back to before, can’t look at me in the eyes but still around etc.
What do I do guys? Did I screw it up?
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He was embarrassed maybe ?
Very common for women to want to keep some guy on their line to chat with when she’s bored, or as a “break glass in emergency” thing, or for the validation of being pursued, but otherwise not be interested in him. When you try to ask these women out they ignore it or play it off like a joke or drop the “I’m sorry, I’m too busy to actually make any time to see you lol” bit. Super common IME. And most won’t admit they’re doing that, so all you can do is make your assumption about their intentions, write them off and move on.
Sounds like he did that.
Doesn’t sound like there’s actually much of a thing there? Maybe just move on yourself? IDK.
This is why flirting via text sucks. You can’t tell body language what the real meaning might be.
What I can surmise of what happened is. He shot his shot. You fell asleep. He didn’t know that fell asleep and figured the pause was you backing away from him.
When you texted back, he probably thought you were just being polite but not interested. He may be thinking you rejected him nicely and he is backing away.
If you want to go out with him, ball is in your court now.
Yes and yes. Yes you screwed up falling asleep mid texting. Yes, you can tell him in person you fell asleep but that maybe even worse now that time past. His objective talking to you was to date you because he was interested. When you feel asleep mid conversation at literally the most part you goofed. Now he’s mentally guarding himself cutting everything off now. If you want to salvage it salvage it if not just move on.
I was in a similar situation, I was left on read. I cut everything off, but I was on the fence because I felt she just was chasing attention. So I texted her do you like me or do you just enjoy teasing me. No response, so I was done. Happy I didn’t waste too much time. Now at work I just ignore her existence whenever I’m near her.
It looks like he felt rejected. He thinks you may have left him on read and avoided his proposal. He already shot his shot and thinks he missed. If you are serious, you should shoot yours and bring up the going out by accepting or suggesting to go somewhere
He was drunk when you first started talking. Sober guy decided it wasn’t a good idea. The grammar would have done it for me. Move on.